Asking someone you’re chatting to online for his Instagram?

[Cuterthanabuttercup]

I’ve been chatting to a man from Bumble for a couple of weeks now, for various reasons we can’t meet until one evening next weekend. I have only seen a few photos of him online and he looks attractive, also seems really lovely in his messages, however I’ve had many experiences in the past when you meet up in real life and it’s a totally different story. I know he has Instagram but it’s private, would it be weird to ask him if I can follow him? I just want to see more recent pics and understand his lifestyle a bit more as I can’t really get excited about meeting at the moment or even messaging this much, as he may look totally different.. is it creepy/stalkerish to ask?

If it was the other way round I wouldn’t want someone following me before we’d met I must admit...

No it’s a massive turn off. I blocked anyone that asked me that when I was on a dating app

Too much too soon.

I wouldn't want someone to check my lifestyle was suitable before I have even met them.

Can’t you just ask him for a few more pics and about his lifestyle? It seems a bit overkill to start following him on Instagram and then when you meet up have no interest in him. And if you’re not that excited about meeting him why are you?

No I am excited, I’m trying not to be - he seems really nice, it’s just I worry that it’s easy to create a nice persona with a few well chosen photos. Guess I’ll just have to hope for the best in real life!

You could ask him to follow you rather than asking him or be patient and wait and see, tbh sm won't even give you the same feeling as meeting him, he'll be using the most flattering pictures and his mannerisms are missing.

I’d also say no. As said on previous threads a friend of mine is on line dating and he’s lost count of the amount of women who look nothing like their pictures, they are either taken years ago or heavily filtered, and lie about their age, in addition some of their behaviour has been beyond Disturbing, and I understand from threads on here, many men are the exact same. It’s a friggen weird world out there.

You haven’t met yet, meet him first, then decide, but I’d not want a stranger following me either.

Just reverse image search his pictures- it will probably link to his social media.

Have dodged a few bullets that way.

Do a video chat

What’s the rush?
You are meeting him soon anyway. And no amount of pictures will change how your chemistry works in real life.
As to lifestyle - this is what chatting isn’t for. Or you can talk about it next weekend.

I’m not sure it would achieve anything? And may turn him off
Does he even post that much?
I post on my Instagram sometimes but no pictures of me 😂

If you have his number and sync your contacts into IG he should come up as a suggestion soon enough. It might come across a tiny bit creepy but if you really want to see it you should ask. I would. Not to see what he looks like, but because if he followed and liked loads of slutty accounts I wouldn't waste my time even meeting him. I'd rather look creepy than date some thirsty, immature perv.