Share your stories of love bombing and discovering the dark side

[BraveGoldie]

I would love to hear people's experiences with love bombing.

How long did it last?
What were the warning signs you saw then or realize you missed?
How and why did it end and you realized he wasn't what you thought?

I am asking because I had assumed it was a short term dating thing - but a recent post was from a woman who has experienced three years before the narcissistic 'true personality' came out. Made me realize I did not know as much as I would like to about this.

Thanks for sharing your stories of lovebombing and discovery! I am sure it will help other women avoid the same pitfalls.

@thecatsarecrazy yeahhhh the insistence on being in contact and calling you 'mrs' sounds like major alarm bells.

I would not be concerned by his mentioning his son briefly - that feels normal and transparent (unless he was suggesting you meet or implying you'd be a great mum figure for him!). But the other stuff sounds definitely off.

@Weetabixandcrumpets thanks for asking! I am fine but yes much more determined to be cautious after suffering major betrayal in the past. I really do think I have a genuinely wonderful one....I think it's a healthy caution rather than anxiety/ paranoia- and it's always good to draw on the collective wisdom of the sisterhood! I do have my own money, I am glad to say. Always a good thing for women.

Some of these stories are pretty scary and I am so glad most posters have escaped, albeit with wounds.... thank you for sharing your experiences.

Anyone struggling/ questioning this right now feel free to post too - we are here for you!

I said one day to him have a good day, he said I hope you're going to be messaging me throughout the day.

Haha yeh they like you to be in constant contact. Always thinking of them. They don't like you having space...or headspace, to listen to your gut instinct screaming at you 'this is too much too fast/there something off about him/I'm not sure if I'm comfortable with this!' Ect...

Get out fast pp. Seriously delete and block.

He's messaged now, didn't reply earlier because I've been out shopping and fixing me and youngest lunch. He said you ok babe? Missing you today 😩

Eee poor you.

Hmm...just text him and tell him you are interested in dating further and wish him all the best...then block him, on everything.

You dont owe anyone a reason for not wishing to continue to date them. He isnt your bf, he isnt even your friend. He's a guy you havent even met yet who clearly has no respect for basic human boundaries.