My Ex fracctured his elbow saturday...

[LivingMyBestLifeNOT]

He is sending me whatapp pix of him with his arm in this sling type thing.
Always been an attention seeker and there is always something wrong with him. Now this.
Weve been split up 3 years, he moved in with another woman and has 2 yr old child and yet he still messages me late at night and tells me how unhappy he is.

If you dont have children together, block him.

If he didn’t get the attention he wouldn’t do it.

He did on the saturday whilst having our DD. Met me on sunday with his GF but she stayed in car and i waited for him to come to my car but i really wanted to be introduced but he has said there is no need.
I felt bad not asking him about his arm even though hes messaged x amount of times during the day.
I literally dont give a shit.Sorry but its making me so anxious and to think his GF is there too

Shame it wasn't your neck.
Then don't message again.

@Sunnydaysstillhere

Shame it wasn't your neck. Then don't message again.

Cold blooded

Trouble is i am too nice to not message so I will reply but it literally grates me so much and I am not harsh enough to tell him to F off although I am close

@LivingMyBestLifeNOT

Trouble is i am too nice to not message so I will reply but it literally grates me so much and I am not harsh enough to tell him to F off although I am close

Well then what can any of us say? If you’re going to engage with him, why start the thread?

You're not "too nice", you're being a mug. Just stop it. Either block and ignore or tell him to fuck off.

Just block him.
The only person you need to be nice to is you.
The world won't end if you block him and there is no "nice police" going to come and arrest you for not being his emotional tampon.

Why are being so bloody passive? Just ignore the message

@LivingMyBestLifeNOT

Trouble is i am too nice to not message so I will reply but it literally grates me so much and I am not harsh enough to tell him to F off although I am close

Just don't reply. It's not difficult!

You are encouraging him. Just ignore these messages in future and he will stop doing it. Problem solved.

Stop being a doormat to this man. Message “I don’t care about your arm. Stop messaging me with crap”

Just don't reply.

Being 'nice' means you don't observe your own boundaries and make the situation worse for yourself.

Being 'kind' is what you want to aim for.

You dont need to be kind (or nice) to an ex who is bothering you.

Write a list of why he is an ex. Fold it up and keep it in the back of your phone. Tempted to text him? Read the list.

@LivingMyBestLifeNOT

Trouble is i am too nice to not message so I will reply but it literally grates me so much and I am not harsh enough to tell him to F off although I am close

It is not being too nice. It is having poor boundaries.

Obviously you have a child so have to communicate, but you dont need to be someone he goes to for attention.

If it isnt something about your child, do not reply.

Tell him if he doesn’t stop pestering you will let his girlfriend know about the messages.

@QuietSunday

Just don't reply.

Being 'nice' means you don't observe your own boundaries and make the situation worse for yourself.

Being 'kind' is what you want to aim for.

You dont need to be kind (or nice) to an ex who is bothering you.

This. It's the reason we are scared to say no, go away, fuck off to strangers who won't leave us alone - we are told as young girls to always 'be nice' but in reality we're being taught to have piss poor boundaries.

You're an adult. Just don't reply and get on with your day, you're perpetuating drama around this where there needn't be any.

You know you don’t have to engage. You can simply ignore these messages and only reply to those pertaining to your child.

If he is messaging you while he does not have your child, and you REALLY feel You HAVE to respond, then leave hours before even looking at the messages as this will show you’re not interested. If you feel you must reply, wait until the next day and reply with either a smiley face/frown face or thumbs up/thumbs down. No words

If he’s not getting the reaction from you he wants, he’ll soon stop and move on to someone else.

It's his current GF's job to go, 'Aww boo boos' not yours.

Ignore his attention seeking and just ask him if/how this will impact your dd - the only person you should be giving attention to.

If he’s not hospitalised he may be unable to drive so might need you to assist with travelling for a short time, and it may impact on care issues like lifting, carrying her, dressing or nappies but depending on your dds age this may be irrelevant.
Anything else nothing to do with you.

You need this t-shirt

@LivingMyBestLifeNOT

He did on the saturday whilst having our DD. Met me on sunday with his GF but she stayed in car and i waited for him to come to my car but i really wanted to be introduced but he has said there is no need. I felt bad not asking him about his arm even though hes messaged x amount of times during the day. I literally dont give a shit.Sorry but its making me so anxious and to think his GF is there too

If his GF is there and spends time with your DD then you absolutely do need to meet her, you might even be not friends but get on in a sense. Also just give very short answers if he messages you or only respond to questions or topics concerning your DD

Havent heard from him in days and its definately helped with how I feel!