Don't know what to do....

[AnnaLoch]

I admit I was wrong 100% earlier this year when during lockdown I had a very brief affair (am married with 3 DD's). I had many reasons for my actions and rightly or wrongly being cooped up in lockdown with my family bought the worst out in me.
Move on to now, my husband has been amazing with supporting me and allowing me back into the family as he understands why this happened (think lack of communication/affection/sex).
Unfortunately my 3 DD's know what happened and constantly treat me like a a toxic piece of shit. It has got to the point where even though DH is supportive I have been so worn down by my DD's negativity I am actually thinking it may be for the best if we separate.
I love my husband but actually feel emotionless right now if that makes sense?
Has any-one been in this position of having cheated, husband wants them back, but, you are not sure??

Who did you have the affair with op? Is it someone they know? Know of? What did the messages say that they read?

No theres never an excuse to be abusive but she is a teenager acting out. That's what teenagers do anyway and now there is more reason to.
There's got to be some room for her to express how she feels about finding the messages.
It's going to be hard for all the family but there has to be an expected back lash

@Aerial2020

That's why I asked the OP what behaviour was being exhibited. I work with teenagers, and I have had one. There is a difference between acting out and abusive behaviour. I was speaking to the OP. Thank you.

I think family therapy would be good for all of you. It must be horrible for you, living with three disapproving daughters, and horrible for them to learn you'd had an affair.

What's your husband's reaction to his daughter's behaviour?

As was I

[quote Katiefizz]@Aerial2020

That's why I asked the OP what behaviour was being exhibited. I work with teenagers, and I have had one. There is a difference between acting out and abusive behaviour. I was speaking to the OP. Thank you.[/quote]
Don't see why you replied to me?

Patronising

@AnnaLoch

No, I have bent over backwards and if anything spoilt them too much.

I think this is the problem. So okay you've had an affair and your husband wants you back then your adult or teenage children (whilst affected by this) they need to butt out as you're an adult and your relationship is your business.

They're clearly not helping the situation and I think the more you bend over backwards you've created a rod for your own back.