Will this relationship blossom?

[PepperSprays]

Pregnant after 4 months of dating someone on and off. I told him I was pregnant after 8 months as I hadn’t heard from him and wasn’t sure what to do.

He was there when I had the child, not in the room, but wanted us to give things a go. But...I can’t help feeling I am not his first choice and obviously we are a couple because of the child not because our relationship worked initially.

So far things have been good, we have moved into his. It’s a new place for me and to be honest getting to know people and getting to know the area has been new and exciting, he’s shown me around etc lots of distractions. But we are a couple of months down the line now and all that’s wearing off and whilst I like the guy we are not a match made in heaven. We wouldn’t be together if it wasn’t for the child and I can’t get it out of my head. I’ve raised it briefly but he feels the same and we have had to accept that. No point always mentioning it.

Will the relationship grow do you think? I’m confused at the moment and tired. I won’t do anything right now as it works for little one but am I deluded to think this will blossom into a strong relationship between us that is passionate and feels right?

Plenty of 'arranged' marriages start this way and grow... he sounds like a decent man..

I agree with some of the other posters, it may develop, it may not. Having a baby can test the strongest of relationships. You’ve had a baby and moved in together in a short period of time.
He wants to give it a go and so do you, only time will tell if love will grow.

You can have passion be in a relationship and or married. Then it can all go tits up. Divorce rates separation marital woes are all evidence that a ‘perfect’ guarantees nothing.
Best marriage I know came from a one night stand which led to pregnancy.
It may work out it may not. Make sure you have a contingency plan and save money because you never know.
Don’t undervalue his conduct. Not all men step up like that.

Historically, marriage has always been more about economics and stability than about love and passion.

If you were both madly in love with each other now it would make zero difference as to whether it worked out long term or not.

Having said that, do you want more for yourself than being with a nice man who treats you and his son well? It's ok if you do.

what do I do if my o.h hates my 4yr old? As my 4yr old doesn't seem to sleep well recently and has started being a little cheeky and not listening at times. Which I always correct her but I dont like to shout as I dont see it solving anything. My o.h can get verbally nasty with name calls and giving me silent treatment when annoyed can go on for days!! Not wanting to be in the same room like im being punished for expressing how i feel about it all. Blaming us for the things said which I totally disagree with its gotten to the point my 4yr old doesnt like my o.h and its always never o.h fault always a reason to try justify why nasty names are said it can be quiet bad at times i am always in the wrong if I get defensive and express what I find wrong with the situation via my 4yr old even the most minor things become a huge deal its become to the point where I do not feel this is healthy and I don't know what to do? any feed back would be really appreciated

@Chat23

what do I do if my o.h hates my 4yr old? As my 4yr old doesn't seem to sleep well recently and has started being a little cheeky and not listening at times. Which I always correct her but I dont like to shout as I dont see it solving anything. My o.h can get verbally nasty with name calls and giving me silent treatment when annoyed can go on for days!! Not wanting to be in the same room like im being punished for expressing how i feel about it all. Blaming us for the things said which I totally disagree with its gotten to the point my 4yr old doesnt like my o.h and its always never o.h fault always a reason to try justify why nasty names are said it can be quiet bad at times i am always in the wrong if I get defensive and express what I find wrong with the situation via my 4yr old even the most minor things become a huge deal its become to the point where I do not feel this is healthy and I don't know what to do? any feed back would be really appreciated

Dump his arse.

If he hates your little girl and subjects her and you to emotional and verbal abuse, then you need to protect her.

She's only tiny, how on earth can anyone hate a four-year-old?!