Hi, so I recently told my husband we were over. He is understandably upset but overall has taken it well. We are being friendly and civil with each other. Every so often he try’s to convince me to change my mind but I remind him that my mind is made up and he accepts that.
But, we are in a difficult situation. He is in the military and we are posted abroad, we have 3 children. We have less than a year left. He suggested seeing the same rat of the time out in order to save money to set us both up when we go home, let the kids finish the school year etc. I do believe there is a part of him that wants this to hold on as long as possible but on the other hand he does have a point. We own a house and cannot sell it till august next year which means I would have to rent until then. If we do decide to stay the plan would be to obviously sleep in separate rooms. I would probably still cook him meals when I’m cooking etc, probably live very similar to how we have been except separated. We have an expensive holiday booked on the same island we live on (so no travelling) that we will lose money on if we cancel, I suggested he go with the kids but he said why don’t I go, he doesn’t expect to share a bed or anything. Is all of this acceptable to do when separated?
I keep making it clear that this is it and there’s no changing my mind, but I also think he has a point with staying the time here. And with the holiday as well I don’t know what to think, is it unreasonable to still do things as a family if we are separated?
TIA