Background - DDad is mid sixties, fit and healthy. Never smoked, not overweight and runs daily. He also has aspergers. I'm early thirties and also fit and healthy. I also have aspergers although mine is "mild".
The last time I saw him was pre-lockdown in February. Him and mum are still married and live about an hours' drive away from me. I had arranged to visit in March, but lockdown hit. Since we were allowed to mix households, I've met up with my mum every couple of weeks - normally for a dog walk and then we've sat and had lunch or coffee and cake outside. She's visited my house and had coffee here too.
Dad has seen nobody. He hasn't been into a shop or cafe or even into town since mid-March. He's obsessed with COVID, reads the news and articles about it constantly and is obsessed with the numbers involved. Fine. Mostly that's his aspergers. He's also barely been in touch with me since that time - no messages, never rings - likes the odd photo on FB but that's it. Mum and I speak most days and ring once or twice a week. He's not interested.
I saw mum today - spent about four hours together in the sun, had afternoon tea etc. All fine. I dropped her back home and went in to use the toilet. All dad said when I saw me was "go away, you're not allowed here". That's it. I was at least six meters away from him in a different bloody room!
I know his aspergers makes him blunt and I know he's worried but is that not just extremely rude? I was so hurt. I haven't seen him since February and he couldn't even ask how I was. He just told me to go away. Our relationship has been strained for a while (on his part - he never puts the effort in to see me so I've just stopped bothering) but this is pretty much the icing on the cake for me. I get he's worried but really?!
I don't really know what I want from this - it's more a rant than anything. I cried on the way home because I just don't understand how someone can treat their own child like that 