Seeing your parents or in-laws with your children - has it made you realise why you are they way you are?

[Tigaaaarghna]

My dad has been down with us recently to help out with ds while dh working away...blimey!
I think I now understand why I am a bit repressed and don't like confrontation.
Also understand why mum got divorced!!

the way you are - of course

oh yes, scary, isn't it?
Makes me very proud I have turned out as well as I have!!

I see my father with my son and it makes me realise why I've always loved him so much. He's fantastic.

Nope. I see my mum with my DCs and wonder when before she had shown such interest in my and my brothers' every fart. She didn't even know what I studied at school.

I look at MIL and wonder how she could have hit her children and yet claim that my leaving one of mine to cry whilst I tend to the other is cruel.

I have less insight into how my mum and me might be similar.

But seeing my in-laws with the dcs has been like shining a light on my dh and the way he is.

Sad thing is, I don't like their attitude to life and their influence on my children at all! Just want to shield my dcs from all their negativity and pessimism, but can't do a whole lot about it because they love their grandchildren and want to see them as much as possible. Thank goodness they live 3 hours drive away.

With Daphne

I look at MIL and my DH and it's all clear - I don't want her to be like that my ds - there's more to life than being a martyr.

I love my mum and she is lovely with DS but she gives him a biscuit everytime he cries... did wonder if that explains why I resort to food in times of stress.