What do women's aid help you with

[whatamess10]

...if you don't need help to escape?
I have been in what I think is an emotionally abusive relationship for 11 years.

My ex dp is leaving this week and I will be staying in the family home with our son.
I know that this is for the best because if he stays it will be ok for a while and then go back to being awful.
I think I am reeling a bit from realising just how bad it has got.

I'm also really worried about my future, I have a child with asd and have lost all my friends and have no support network at all.
We moved away from where we used to live and I don't know anyone I feel really isolated.

I have generalised anxiety disorder and I'm worried my mental health will get worse with all the stress of having to start again. I need to put my life back together but I don't know how. Can women's aid offer any help for people in my situation?

Hi. Womens aid may be able to help you for moral and emotional support. The lady i spoke to really helped me as well as the thread i put on here has made me realise my relationship is far from healthy.
They will speak to you about your concerns they can give advice but of course its your choice to make if any. Just know that being in an abusive relationship is not healthy this is maybe contributing to your mental health. My advise is keep talking to people whether it be womens aid, samaritans or on this thread. Maybe consult GP to see if they can get you in any anxiety meetings with other people. Im sorry if this hasnt helped but i hope it has.

Thank you, it's really helpful to hear about other people's experiences.
The relationship definitely isn't healthy but I'm having trouble accepting it's abusive sometimes it feels clear it was but other times I feel like it's not that bad.

I know I can't go on how it is but equally because I'm so isolated I think I am trauma bonded to him. Even though things are awful he is the last person left I have for support.

I'm really worried that he will go and my future will be lonely and awful. I don't think I will ever meet anyone else as my son has asd and not many people are going to opt into this life. He has been extra horrible this week and has run me down a lot so feeling really low but also worried what he's saying is true.

Thank you for taking the time to reply I hope things are better for you now.

I understand what your saying a lot of what your saying is familiar to me. Men who are abusive have a way to trick women into codependenecy. This is what sometimes makes us stay, they can wittle us down then make us feel loved. Its a whirlwind and thats what they want. To confuse us. You will see things clearer once hes not in your life and i think only then can you determine what happens next in terms of new relationships. One step at a time is really useful here, try to keep your head clear of whats happening right now, friendships and new relationships will happen over time. Nobody should make you feel low and its a clear sign of manipulation if you are worrying if its true. He is making you question yourself its not right.

Yes I definitely feel confused, it's the constant cycle of things being ok then sensing its going to get bad again, constantly having to be aware of what I'm doing so I don't trigger him or worrying what mood he will be in. It's all just exhausting.
He's one of those people that everyone seems to like and is really confident.
He's going to go and be absolutely fine. He'll probably find a replacement pretty quick and I'm left feeling anxious and pathetic.
I think I'm going to contact women's aid and see what they say, I've already been looking into counselling.
Everything seems very daunting at the minute. Thanks again for replying to me.