Insight

[Insightneeded]

Hi, wondering if someone can provide some insight into my situation

I split up with my girlfriend around 2 years ago, (she lied to me about some fundamentals) We had a nasty break up, I deleted my social media accounts and have since dated and met new people.

I recently rejoined social media, I’ve come across the ex gfs account and it’s mainly about bashing me- a toxic, manipulative, narcissistic etc person.
I know I have some faults but believe me I’m none of those things as she describes me.

Im extremely hurt right now.
We broke up because of HER lies about the fundamentals.
Can somebody tell me why she is still bashing me?

She sounds disordered and it sounds like you've had a lucky miss. I would contact the relevant platforms and report the lies via their Help Centre.

I would then block her on all platforms and move on.

Thanks for your reply.
Yh I’ve blocked her

Well think of it as a lucky escape. FWIW I’m in almost the same position, lots of lies and bending of the truth went on. I actually had a hoover attempt the other day, after almost three years saying she had all sorts of regrets. Foolishly I responded and the reply I got was only more repetition of the same lies, in my case it was that she was tired of supporting me. The reality of the situation was the complete opposite and she’d turned black into white; I’d spent over 50k on our family and house over two years, her 15k (I saw her tax returns so knew what she had coming in)

It’s pointless trying to reason with these people, they’re disordered and they’re best left well alone imo.

How old are the comments?

Are they from back then? Or are they really recent because she has noticed you joining again?

All you can do is try to maintain a dignified silence. She wants to engage you in tit for tat. Try to ignore her.

Lonelycraab sorry to hear about your situation, I hope it gets resolved soon

Bunnymumy
The comments are from when we broke up till today.
I’ve stayed silent, no contact, I’ve even avoided places where I may bump into her. But it hurts that someone who “loved me” and shared good memories with is being so spiteful.

@Insightneeded meh it’s as resolved as it needs to be- my skin is an awful lot thicker than it was now I know what/who I’m dealing with.

You’ve said your ex lied about some fundamentals which suggest she was and is less than honest. And to continue slagging you off on sm after all this time is also the sign of a pretty bad person I think. Try to let it not get to you, easy as it sounds, if you don’t show a reaction then really you have the upper hand and the moral high ground.

Has she been critisising you for two years? Even though she hasn't received a response from you?

Thanks lonelycraab, nice words of advice.

Yes Katiefizz, criticising me for two years as well as saying things along the lines of how I was removed from her life to make way for better.
I think she is genuinely depressed and I do feel sorry for her.

I have not responded to her in two years either

Hi op. My ex is doing the same to me, slating me on fb. I'm not even on fb but I have seen his page. Best of it is we still see each other because we have a baby and he isn't like that to my face. It's very hard to understand why people do what they do