I recently discovered my husband has been using prostitutes - the last one a few weeks ago. 22 yrs of what I thought was a happy marriage - but unbeknown to me he's been leading a secret existence, and I had no bloody idea. I've found evidence where he rang a prostitute, had no response from her, so then rang another who he then visited, spending family money which we could ill afford. Having found this out (got proof), I then came across a mobile number in his car, which, when googling it, turned out to be the number of yet another.
I feel as if I have been hit by a bus. I can barely believe this was what my husband has been up to - the man I had 100% trust in, and a Mr Niceguy to me and the outside world.
He has admitted seeing one but no others, adding the number of the one I found in his car was only there because he had been thinking of seeing her but didn't (probably bullshit!) He lied over how much he paid the "only one" he visited, but eventually owned up when I told him I had found out what he had paid her because her rates are on her webpage! I can't look on his work's mobile phone to see what calls he's made, or his browsing history, as he changed jobs about 6 weeks ago and of course the work mobile and laptop was returned.
I am an utter wreck, can't sleep, can't stop crying, booked to see a counsellor as I have no family close by, feel utterly destroyed and distraught. We are both 54 and have 2 grown up children. He says he only did it because he didn't think I loved him any more (what a bastard....whilst he was looking for my faults I was too busy overlooking his!) He also says how sorry he is for the hurt he's caused me (prob only sorry he's been found out!) and that he'd never do it again.....I'm not so sure tho.
Do I give him the benefit of the doubt? (What I would give to see his work's phone and laptop browsing history and the calls he made!!!)
I just can't think straight.