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Just found myself mentioned in a blog and I feel a bit...strange...about it

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abitfreakedout · 07/10/2007 21:38

I post here regularly but have namechanged to save RL ID getting rumbled!

I just googled myself (I know how that sounds but I wanted to see how much of my work is online!) and I came across a mention of myself in a blog entry. I wasn't sure it was me but my name is unusual and then I found out who wrote the blog and I'm a bit freaked out.

this is the entry I'm mentioned in. It's written by someone I met five years or so ago, and had a friendship with - I think I knew he wanted more but it wasn't there, but I really liked him and enjoyed spending time with him. And then, reading the other entries, I'm thinking, god, that's a bit personal, and what I read doesn't tally with what I know of the author. And I wasn't aware to what extent I figured in his "imaginary scenarios".

Am I just being a bit...oversensitive? I just find it a bit creepy. But then, I can find some bloggers a bit creepy. Why would you want to put that out there for literally anyone to see? And not entirely happy about my full name being sited in it!

Any thoughts?

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BecauseImWereWolfit · 07/10/2007 21:40

TBH I find the whole blog thing a little weird. Why would the whole www want to read about me?

I would be very concerned about seeing my name written in someone else's blog (especially if I had an unusual/easily identifiable name).

Can you contact him and ask him to take your name out?

TotalChaos · 07/10/2007 21:41

I'ld be a bit freaked out too, I sympathise. Maybe it's all a bit of a fantastic thing, who kows.

IndulgeMePlease · 07/10/2007 21:43

Hmmm, I can see why you'd feel a bit uneasy. However, If I knew you in real life and came across your name in this blog, I'd just think, "Poor Anna/Freya, this rather intense man must have had a real crush on her". It doesn't reflect at all badly on you so I wouldn't worry too much about your name being used.

ShinyHappyPurpleSeveredHeads · 07/10/2007 21:43

But you've just linked us all to it so now we all know your real name!

fishie · 07/10/2007 21:48

abit, this is odd. why are you linking us to your rl name (well one of three) when saying you don't want to be publicised? would you like us all to google you then?

or if not and you are just rattled and upset then my apologies and do get this thread deleted.

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abitfreakedout · 07/10/2007 21:48

Haha - yeah, ShinyHeads, but this isn't my normal posting name, so you know who freaked out is but not in relation to my other posts!

I think...it comes across a bit stalkery, and odd (how he's talking about this H girl.) Sure she'd love to know he's described their "lovemaking" online with her real name in it!

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IfYouCanKeepYourHead · 07/10/2007 21:48

Hhhmmm - wierd. He says on his personal bit that he is married with 3 grown sons? Am I being a numbskull - what would his wife think of his imagination being out there for all to read? I don't get it - I'd ask im to take my name off if it was me...

IfYouCanKeepYourHead · 07/10/2007 21:51

that would be HIM no IM !! Me ole cockerney sparra!

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abitfreakedout · 07/10/2007 21:53

Fishie - no, you've got the wrong end of the stick. I'm just looking for some perspective on what I've read! And yeah, you can work out that I'm one of those two people but not in relation to who I am when I'm posting here under my regular name!

I hadn't noticed the married with 3 sons bit. That is definitely not true. Even odder...

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abitfreakedout · 07/10/2007 21:57

Am I being really thick, where's his personal bit? Can't find it!

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Elizabetth · 07/10/2007 22:10

I agree it's creepy. He sounds incredibly self-obsessed and it really isn't the done thing amongst bloggers to use people's full names unless they are out there in the public domain already.

I'd say ignore it as it's from 2006.

madamez · 07/10/2007 22:20

It's sort of the other side of fame (if you are FG I have read some of your books and liked them btw, never heard of the other ones). There are shitloads of blogs by assorted saddos going on and on about how they dream rude dreams about Madonna/David Cameron/Pete Doherty/whatever the latest reality tv dork is...
But I apreciate it's a little bit unsettling. I have an Enemy who every now and again pops up on some or other site ranting furiously about my, er, faults (which mainly consist, in his rants, of the fact that I'm ugly, a lesbian, fat, a man-hater etc. He also likes to claim that I'm an alcoholic. People who read his drivellings either react with utter bewilderment ('who is this woman? Is she your ex-wife? what is your point exactly) or if they know me, usually email me to point out that Himself's off his meds again and being a twat.
Thing is, I'm aquainted with him but not an XP in any way, and remain not entirely sure quite why he's got such a problem. It's been going on long enough (and there's another person who does it as well, but is so completely deranged and stupid that it's not remotely worrying) so that I know tend to roll my eyes and not even bother replying... But I do know what you mean about it being a bit of a jolt to see yourself being talked about.

xXxamyxXx · 07/10/2007 22:29

ver odd

prettyfly1 · 08/10/2007 08:37

think about how many people are likely to read/ see it. if its a lot insist he takes it off. Realistically a man talking about his sex life or relationships in a blog is absolutely no different to a "sex in the city" style column (and the real carrie wrote for the new york times!) but carrie et al always respected the privacy of their conquests by hiding their identitites behind alternative names. So should he. If you are uncomfortable make him remove it.

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abitfreakedout · 08/10/2007 09:19

Thanks everyone. I might ask him to take my name out, but it's a bit embarassing, isn't it! I've been wondering if he actually realises that people can read it and it isn't a private blog! But then, he works with computers and really should realise...

Madamez - dammit, much as I was enjoying the flattery I'm going to have to admit that it must be a different FG - sadly not had any books published yet, just really dull other stuff...

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jajas · 08/10/2007 09:26

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abitfreakedout · 08/10/2007 09:31

I dunno - I'm starting to work freelance at the moment, and the internet is where I'm marketing myself. So if people google me they'll see my work, and that. Not that it's a massive deal, but if I was Harmony whatserface and someone googled me for similar reasons, they're going to read some sexual stuff that would not make me happy at all. Especially when you consider that she was going out with someone at the time.

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jajas · 08/10/2007 09:55

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GColdtimer · 08/10/2007 14:20

I wouldn't worry too much, being very bored at work, I googled all three names and couldn't find any mention of this blog on the first few pages and lets face it, most people don't get beyond the first or second page of results.

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