Dating someone new, don't want to rip off his clothes!

[Marshmallow26]

So I've been on 3 amazing dates with such a great guy. I literally cannot fault him, hes kind, considerate and very interested in me as a person.
After a 4 year long abusive relationship I finally took up dating and I feel great!
I really am attracted to this guy I think he's so handsome and his personality makes him twice as attractive, we laugh, cuddle kiss and genuinely love being around one another. And we spend hours together!
I just don't want to rip off his clothes!? And I repeat I'm really attracted to him.. Part of me thinks perhaps without realising I'm being cautious and I'm letting him court me but then I've never been on this position before, Ive never dated, just fallen into relationships quickly.. Those drunk nights that don't go away for years!
I'm definitley nervous and I understand there's no rush but equally I don't want to get down the line and when it comes to it I can't 🙄
Also, just to note, he's never tried it, he definitley fancies me and told me he's happy to just not jump into bed and spend time with me properly (I know.. Who is this guy 😂) he's not especially flirtatious or touchy feely in a sexual way, he's a big softy that loved cuddles and talking.. Maybe not seeing that side is making it hard to know... Any opinions welcomed!!!

I've made no long term plans 🤷‍♀️
Yeah I have two kids and I'm safeguarding them with everything I am doing and have done.
I don't understand how I'm rushing because as I said my point is I'm not looking for a fling.. That doesn't mean I'm rushing to have the next relationship it means I'm enjoying what it is

OP after a really vile marriage I found a lovely bloke who sounds very similar to yours, I was extremely cautious about a new relationship with him and we were great friends and loved being together but the 'tear your clothes off' stage was delayed by both of us until we were very sure this was a 'proper' relationship... we've been together now for almost 14 years .

@pinkyboots1 that's so lovely to hear! I think you deserve that after a horrible marriage x

11 days ago you had been on three dates with this guy.. you're talking about "the long run", saying he's not like anyone you've ever met .. you've been to his house when his kids are sleeping? You're one big red flag! You need to realise this isn't the speed most relationships go at.

Maybe it's the speed mine will go at 😊
I haven't met his children so not sure that's valid but thanks for your input I'll bare it in mind 😁

No bother, I wish you luck.

Op. I think it's lovely and you sound as if you are doing just fine. Enjoy it. You sounds very level headed, you are allowed to enjoy it and even think about a future. It's wise of others to add caution BUT I see no red flags. I'm happy for you.

Glad you are happy now op.

I actually do agree with pp though that you dont have to be vulnerable to attract them. I attract them much more now adays when I am happy and confident. Because confidence is attractive to everyone.

But as long as you can spot them now, it's all good.

I would question the speed of this though. Not because of potentisl toxicity but because men have a tendency to be a bit smitten early on because they like the 'idea' of you.

I wouldnt be talking relationship just yet. Just take it as fun, enjoy yourself. But maybe don't drop your guard for another month or so yet. You know, dont go planning the wedding or anything lol.

Well I’m really happy for you! You sound like you have waited a long time for this. Don’t over analyse - just relax and enjoy every minute x