How long did you wait to date after abusive relationship?

[Divorcinganarcissist]

I guess it’s very personal depending on severity and how badly effected you are and how you come to terms with it.

But how long did you all leave it after leaving?

I will be 2 years free beginning of next year, I can’t believe it’s been that long as I’m still trying to divorce the bastard. I’m starting to realise that not every man is abusive but haven’t a clue how to be in a normal relationship!

Think only when you are ready. Split with my ex 3 years in march. But only left house last oct as problems buying me out. I know I'm not ready yet. Hopefully one day I will be xx

I am in the middle of a divorce so don't have ready answers but my guess is that waiting until absolutely everything to do with divorce is over is a must - I wouldn't be able to trust myself and my internal compass any earlier. Then if you add another year for healing and finding your own feet, getting used to new routines etc, then that should be the right time I think - you'll probably be as ready as you are ever going to be for a new relationship.