I came out of a long term relationship (12years) in oct 2018 and have given it a go.
Tinder has been about the best for getting dates.
There's a lot of matching which leads nowhere. The trick seems to be identifying a couple of 'good bets' and get into conversation with them. Maybe aim to swap numbers or suggest a date after about a week of chatting.
Some dates will be short lived. Just accept it and dont take it personally. I was targeted by one as she went out with someone in the same line of work that I think she used as a bit of a cash cow (the least enjoyable experience and we only had one date).
But then there was one we got on really well and still keep in touch now. It didnt go further as she wanted a child (which she now has) and I didnt want any more.
Ive had two mini relationships (about 3 months). The first was a bit too soon in truth but she was good in some ways as she'd been through it herself and was two years separated. She did however have some underlying issues which led to her drinking quite a lot. We went back to hers after date three and she passed when we got to hers. I managed to get her on the sofa and a blanket. That was a red flag really but I wasnt in the right place at that
time. Nothing happened that night I should add! Ultimately I was worried she seemed similar to ex which scared me a bit so that one ended (ex didn't drink but similar characteristics).
The other mini relationahip was very interesting as we had a lot in common and I thought it was a real possibility it could last long term. Unfortunately the distance was a bit too far and she wanted more time than I could give her with kids /work etc. Again though I think underlying issues. She has a clear pattern of short term dating relarionships which she can't seem to break. I keep in touch with her as a friend too.
Im currently dating someone (not via Tinder) . Keeping fingers crosses but will see how it pans out.
I think its different for everyone. I have four kids and will need my own place whilst they grow up which will be over the next 10 years or so. Im happy to blend family but couldnt imagine living with someone full time whilst kids frow up (I put something about it on Dadsnet).