I think this is more of a vent than anything
There a lot of issues in my relationship, and everyday I’m struggling more, I plan on leaving but need time to get things in place.
He lies about the lost stupid things (and big things) but a few weeks ago he went on a lads weekend and invited me and the kids to go for a few hours (seaside) and then he would meet the boys later. I said no it’s a lads weekend you go angle enjoy yourself. Last week I made plans to go out for tea with a friend and he told the kids “mummy’s going out for ice cream and didn’t invite us” I told him that was unfair to do that and I wouldn’t expect to be invited out with him and his friends to which he relied I invited you to with the boys cos I’m kind like that and I just want to spend time with you,,,yesterday I saw a message on his phone from said friend and it was him that actually suggested me and the kids coming along for a couple of hours not my husband!!!!
He makes little digs a lot like nothing I do is quite good enough but then when I raise it he tells me it’s a joke and I’m just trying to cause an argument
He has a temper, a lot calmer now he on antidepressants but still loses his shit about the smallest thing. He has been a complete asshole to me and the kids in the past and said things I can’t forget and I still struggle with this now, sometimes I look at him and remember these things he said and I just really dislike him for it. I can’t get over it.
He’s very lazy when it comes to house and kids. He does not do anything in the house, he will cook if he has to if I’m at work for example but he doesn’t do anything otherwise. For example the kids wake up early and I get up with them which is fine, I signed up to this when I became a parent, but what pisses me off is the fact that when I’m knackered he says you should wake me (he knows that won’t) Iland he says I’ll get up in the morning,,but every time guaranteed he’ll hear the kids and say I’ll go...then continue to lay there,,,,so I go...then he says what you doing get back in bed.....then continues to lay there. And then doesn’t wake up till a couple of hours later. And even then he’ll come in and go oh sorry love I was going to get up, you go back to bed (I’m like no I’ve been awake hours I don’t want to go back to bed) so then he’ll go back to bed.
Yesterday I was seeing clients (home based beauty business) in between sorting the kids and blitzing the house. We currently live in a very hot country due to work so I was pouring, I was knackered. He said oh I might wash the car and I said let me just drive to the shop for some bleach and he said I’ll go. 20mins later not moved, still playing games on his phone, says again, I might wash the car, so I said I need bleach, again he said I’ll go. Another 30minutes passes (all the while I’m slogging my ass off scrubbing the house and he’s on his phone) still didn’t move so I got my shoes on and the car keys and he asks where you going I wanna reply the shop for some bleach....the cheeky f**er says oh will
You grab me some Vimto!!!
Constantly accusing me of fancying other people or sleeping with people etc. But says it in a jokey way so that makes it ok he’s not actually accusing me. It grinds me down and I feel guilty for something I haven’t actually done!!!
Groping - he gropes me constantly and it annoys me because he don’t ever touch me normally, if he touched my arm he’ll move his hand round to my breast, all contact is sexual and I just feel like a piece of meat.
He says really inappropriate things, he tells his work friends sexual things, like he might tell them we had sex the night before etc....
99.9% of his conversations are sex related in some way, all of his conversations with me are somehow sex related or he turns them into sexual innuendos. It’s exhausting. This and the groping is in front of the kids sometimes too which I repeatedly tel him I don’t like and is highly inappropriate. Eg, he cut his foot and said oh it’s a big gash. My middle girl age 8 said what’s gash,,,he replied when someone says get your gash out, they’re saying get your cut out!!!! He thought he was hilarious. I was furious and said why the hell do you feel this is ok to say?!!
I feel he doesn’t respect me or my wishes during sex or anything sex related. I really don’t enjoy it with him I don’t think he is very good at it. I tell him what I like and what I dont like but he doesn’t take it into consideration he just does what he likes (I feel he copies things he sees on porn vids) I tell him I dont enjoy anal but he still tries every time, I’m self conscious of my body so sometimes I don’t want to get my boobs out but he sulks until I do. Basically I am his toy and he does what ever he wants or he will sulk. I dont feel like I want to have sex with him. He said he wanted c*k ring and I said no I’m not interested in several occasions and he went ahead and ordered one anyway. This bothered me more of the fact that he just didn’t care that I’d said no he just did it anyway,,,like he does!!!
Sorry guys it was building up and I needed to get it out xx