Pregnant but feel like housemates

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We’ve been together for 2 years and I’m 6 months pregnant both early 30’s. I feel like this should be such an exciting time in our relationship but most of the time I feel like we’re just polite housemates.

We rarely do anything as a couple unless I arrange it, date nights are always planned by me otherwise we would just end up staying in. All baby bits / decisions have been decided by myself as he will just agree with everything I say / suggest and not really show much of an active interest. He comes home from work, we eat, watch tv then he falls asleep on the sofa by 10pm. I feel like we never really connect or enjoy each other’s company.

He’s a good to me, we never argue and the relationship feels stable but everything just feels so ‘dull’ and unfulfilling. Surely this can’t be it for the rest of my life?

Maybe it's just his character?...
Is he generally a lad back person.

Men aren't always excited excited about babies but there is still things you could be doing.

Was your relationship like this before you got pregnant?

He’s definitely a laid back person. I get that it’s just his personality but it’s starting to frustrate me.

I suppose our relationship has always been like this even before I was pregnant but for some reason I just didn’t notice.

Do you love him?

It doesn't sound like it.

Do yourselves both a favour and end the relationship now. Or yes, this will be it for the rest of your life. If you're happy with that, then fine.

If not, then do something about it.

I do love him. I just don’t feel in love without the connecting.

I don't agree at all with the advice to just end the relationship! We know nothing about him/you/your relationship.

Talk to him and explain that you would like a bit more spontaneity, for him to make more effort to plan things and that you want to feel a bit more loved in general. Remind him that there are only a few months left just the two of you before your lives completely change - I'm sure he will make more effort.

Lots of men just get comfortable and have no idea how this makes their partner feel.

.....op, you'll be plenty busy when the baby arrives, this won't be your life forever, very soon you'll have a new life to care for and love, hopefully this will give DP the shake up he needs.
I had a 'laid back ex, and felt exactly like you, I thought i needed more. We split when DC was little, big mistake. I might have found my 'spontaneous lifestyle' but it came at huge costs, and I would go back to laid back and quiet in a heartbeat.

Unfortunately relationships aren't always exciting..

Have you tried to tell your partner how you feel? Tried doing something different? Cooking together? Board games? Going for a walk? Try and break the "watch tv and fall asleep" routine.

Please dont throw away a relationship if hes a good, stable man in every other respect.

You just need to shake things up a little, and even if you don't succeed, in a few short months, when baby appears, you'll probably be wishing for the quiet predictable life you have now