Parental responsibility.. Schools

[Puppy72]

Hi Mumsnetters..
Has anyones ex partner disputed their choice of schools for DC? And if so, did you have to go through the courts?

So I'm not obliged to let him know what school I'm applying for and if he wants direct involvement with the school he can call them himself.. Not that he knows where we are. X

[quote Puppy72]@TheFormerPorpentinaScamander but will I not need to let him know what school I am applying for if he finds out then he could say I didn't ask for his consent?[/quote]
You don't need his consent to apply.
Ideally as he has parental responsibility it would be an agreement. But ultimately, as long as you inform him of the allocated school, you have done your bit.
If you apply and receive confirmation of the allocation in say April, I'd inform him formally of the allocation, not application, in June July.
Likelihood really is he has no idea of the time scale etc. And once allocated it's difficult to then change. Even if via court, and he has to have grounds as I said that the school won't meet the child's needs. That's difficult if no additional needs.

Thank you, that sounds positive and makes me feel better. I'm taking it as I just need to inform him once she's been allocated a space (or even after she starts) to be honest I think I just won't say anything to him he'll bring nothing but trouble to my door.

I've just applied and there was nowhere to add another parent. I'm trying to think what info they wanted when DC actually started- but by then you've got the place and can show them the non-mol and hopefully they will work with you.

Don't tell him unless he asks.

When she starts school make them aware of the situation. As he has PR he's entitled to copies of reports and school newsletters, but he has to organise that through the school.

Normally the school couldn't stop someone with PR taking a child - either collecting them at the end of the day or coming in and saying they are taking them for an appointment so make sure they know he's not allowed to see her and have copies of all the related paperwork.

Thank you. Im just waiting for him to make the application into court at the moment. My solicitor said that was the best thing to do because if I apply then it's encouraging him to do so as well when it could just be left for years. As far as I'm concerned I'm extremely happy to raise my daughter alone. He lives over 70 miles away from us now so hopefully he won't just show up at the school.

The non mol will expire before she starts school, I hope for a reapplication to be granted though.

Are you saying that you would make contact with a violent abusive man to tell him where his daughter is going to school? Sorry to sound rude, but are you totally barking mad? Why on EARTH would you invite this creature back into your child's life out of some sort of twisted idea of "entitlement"? You have done brilliantly at keeping you and her safe, please don't put yourselves in danger again by re-opening communication.

@funnylittlefloozie you've misunderstood me. I'm asking if I NEED to get his permission.. If he was to ever find out where we lived it's only a matter of time before he found out the school my daughter goes to. That man can drop dead painfully for all I care.. I'm just trying to understand if I need to tell him anything regarding consent for my daughters school.. But it appears I don't. So the answer to your question is NO.