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Meeting women who are child-free by choice

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AnaViaSalamanca · 09/09/2020 18:13

Is there any forum/meetup/group for the above demographics? I am looking to connect with similar women given that friends who have children live in a different space and those who do not but want to, are consumed by fertility and trying etc. I find it all quite tedious and looking to make new child free friends that are more on my wavelength. Any ideas?

I did find a site once, but it was more for women who could not have children so it was about connecting and commiserating on that front.

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NinewhileFive · 09/09/2020 18:19

Not sure but following with interest as I'd like to find some kind of meet up group ..

AbulaConundrum · 09/09/2020 18:19

Set up your own group OP. I started my own meet-up group a year ago, for different reasons to yours, and it's now going really well. 12 of us going for a walk and lunch tomorrow. It was a bit daunting at first, and Meet-up charges for hosting (I get this back through member subs), but I'm so glad I decided to be proactive, rather than sitting at home wishing I could meet people like me. Good luck!

category12 · 09/09/2020 18:19

I googled and there's TLFW (the League of Fabulous Women) and MeetUp appears to have child-free groups.

GnomeOrMistAndIceGuy · 09/09/2020 18:20

There are a few FB groups, but I found some just unnecessarily unpleasant. Like, not wanting kids is fine, as is frustration with parenthood being sold as the ultimate goal, etc. but do we really need to call mothers breeders and moos, etc? I'd be interested to know if you find anywhere decent!

Beachcomber1 · 09/09/2020 18:28

I follow Childfree Chicks Confidential on FB. It’s very American so I don’t contribute a lot but it’s can be quite light. I’ve found some groups very OTT and weird.

Childfree Book Club is also good if you like reading. It’s a FB group and pretty small- under 1,000 members so not hugely active.

DrDetriment · 09/09/2020 18:35

Come over to r/childfree on Reddit.

EarthSight · 10/09/2020 10:52

@Beachcomber1

I follow Childfree Chicks Confidential on FB. It’s very American so I don’t contribute a lot but it’s can be quite light. I’ve found some groups very OTT and weird.

Childfree Book Club is also good if you like reading. It’s a FB group and pretty small- under 1,000 members so not hugely active.

'very OTT and weird.'

Lol. Please elaborate!

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AnaViaSalamanca · 10/09/2020 11:04

Just to elaborate a bit, I am not looking for an online community to debate about having or not having children. It's a non-issue for me and I respect people's choices, so yeah, no frustrated OTT venting and slagging parents...

What I am looking for is people that are in their 30s and beyond who have the free time and flexibility to do activities. Things like a last moment concert or a planning a ski trip. I thought perhaps there would be local groups or something. If anyone started anything, please do let me know!

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Springfern · 10/09/2020 14:10

Where do you live OP? I'm looking for exactly the same and am about to relocate to Leeds

MitziK · 10/09/2020 18:14

@AnaViaSalamanca

Just to elaborate a bit, I am not looking for an online community to debate about having or not having children. It's a non-issue for me and I respect people's choices, so yeah, no frustrated OTT venting and slagging parents...

What I am looking for is people that are in their 30s and beyond who have the free time and flexibility to do activities. Things like a last moment concert or a planning a ski trip. I thought perhaps there would be local groups or something. If anyone started anything, please do let me know!

You don't really need to restrict yourself to people who haven't given birth, then, do you?
GarlicMcAtackney · 10/09/2020 18:19

mitz leave op alone, childfree women are endlessly harangued. I would have nothing in common with a person who chose to have a kid, it would mean who they fundamentally are on a base level would be diametrically opposed to everything I am. OP I’ve had no luck IRL, but am part of a close knit group of cf women on Facebook.

MitziK · 10/09/2020 18:56

@GarlicMcAtackney

mitz leave op alone, childfree women are endlessly harangued. I would have nothing in common with a person who chose to have a kid, it would mean who they fundamentally are on a base level would be diametrically opposed to everything I am. OP I’ve had no luck IRL, but am part of a close knit group of cf women on Facebook.
What? I'm not haranguing her.

People have children at different ages. Go from 30+ to 40+ and there could be plenty who have grown up children and are just as free to go to a gig or on holiday as somebody who hasn't had any in the first place. And they'd most likely enjoy having conversations that don't revolve around children for the first time for 18-20 years.

Beachcomber1 · 11/09/2020 00:31

Please elaborate!

Strayed into some with frequent themes of nihilism and eugenics.

hilariousnamehere · 11/09/2020 00:35

I've found a few groups on FB - and irl am lucky to have a few friends who are childfree plus a few with children who are still very flexible :)

Agree with pp, if you can't find what you're after, start your own locally!

SoulofanAggron · 11/09/2020 00:48

I think if you go along to Meetups of any kind, most people you meet will be in this category, or they would be less likely to be out mingling.

Oblomov20 · 11/09/2020 00:56

Do such groups exist? I'd like to join! I booked easily not talk about my tm2 teens, believe you me!
My 2 closest friends from school are childless. I'll ask them if they know of any groups.

mayflowerapplepie · 11/09/2020 01:00

I feel your pain. I don't want to talk about not having children I just want to hang out with people who have the freedom to go and do things, take trips etc. I also hope for inspiration about my purpose and want to steal other peoples ideas Grin I really really don't want children but I also have this tiny niggle when I hang out with proper grown ups (married with children ones) that I should be being more of an adult somehow

I have friends with children and I spend time with them but our lives are just different. Even the ones who have less "conventional" families with women who have awesome careers and take their kids off round the world etc.

chromis · 11/09/2020 07:53

Apparently one in 5 women don't have children but I agree OP it does seem to be hard to find them!

I inadvertently found a nice bunch of child-free people through volunteering. Some are not child-free but older and kids long left home so have the same money/flexibility/free time.

Thinking through the things they do (did pre-covid!), sewing groups, book clubs, bridge, walking groups, Meetup groups, pub lunches, being in theatre productions, comedy nights.

I'm 45 and I've definitely found it easier to either have younger or older friends, the 30-50 crowd do all seem to have kids.

I'm lucky I only work part-time so can do stuff in the day or evening or weekend.

sitckmansladylove · 11/09/2020 07:56

I am a mother but i totally understand how annoying it must be to have that constant talk in friendship groups about something not if interest to you. Before i had dc i felt bored etc. of these types of conversations. Would you consider starting one up?

Crankley · 11/09/2020 14:35

Why is it limited to 'childfree' women? What about 'childless' women, ie those who are infertile?

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