I'm not really after advice as such, more to vent my anger and frustration.
Had a first date with a guy I met on Tinder about a month ago, the date went well, lots of conversation, laughs, banter and a spark!! Things were going well over the last few weeks, lots planned, his birthday (next week) planned. We whatsapp every day and speak on the phone every other day or so.
I had woken up to an abusive voice mail from an ex (this man is blocked but I still receive a voice mail notification) demanding money on Sunday morning. I was feeling a bit shaken so messaged said guy asking if he fancied meeting up for lunch. He replied he was still in bed, very hungover and apologised. I told him to sleep it off and hope he felt better.
I received another voice mail around 2pm from the ex, this time he had clearly had a drink and I was becoming anxious. He has form for turning up on the doorstep unannounced. I spent most of Sunday expecting a knock on the door. Thankfully he didn't.
Monday morning date man messaged good morning as normal saying he still felt rough, probably alcohol poisoning. I'm afraid I wasn't sympathetic and was rather sharp with my reply. I didn't mean too, I'd made the mistake of unblocking ex and found an abusive text so was dealing with that. Date man replied about 6pm, I apologised and he said he would call later that evening.
So he calls, told me I should have mentioned Sunday before the day, he wouldn't have had so much to drink etc and then says something is bothering you what is it? So eventually he gets it out of me, I tell him about ex, he offers support. He tells me about the bar he went on Saturday night with his daughter, I would love it there, he wants to take me but we would have to stay at his house. We finish the conversation, back to normal or so I thought.
I didn't hear anything yesterday so messaged him, he replied, all seemed ok, I replied saying I'd looked up the bar and looked great. I heard nothing from him. Last night on whatsapp he was clearly online. My gut was telling me what I didn't want to hear so sent a message. He was online but clearly ignoring me so called him out on it and he said "I am sorry the connection is no longer there anymore"
As I said, not sure what I am after but feel better for writing it all down.