Does your dp blame you when they're ill?

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I'm getting a bit fed up of this now as every time dp becomes ill it's my fault.

When he has a sickness bug it's because I haven't cleaned the bathroom properly or the dc haven't washed hands enough.

When he has a cold it's because I left the window open all night two weeks ago

When his hayfever flares up it's because I didn't iron the bedding enough to kill the pollen.

It's always my fault apparently.

Anyone else get blamed for partners illnesses or is mine just an idiot?

I think you’re misjudging him here. He’s obviously a medical genius. I’m going to ring my GP right now and tell him to stop prescribing me medicine for my hayfever because all I need to do is iron the bedding.

What. A. Dickhead.

I’m kind of intrigued where he thinks the pollen goes if you iron? Is there a specific pollen that only sits on bedding? It comes through the window and flies it’s little wings over to the bed...what about pollen on the carpet? Are you supposed to iron that? Intriguing.

Wut. Does he go in for leeches and blood letting as well?

He’s an idiot.

My DH doesn't blame me but definitely feels the need to place blame somewhere for illness and MIL is the same.
If one of us is ill there is always a "Well, where have you got that from?" Remark in an accusing tone.
I always reply, who knows, petrol pump, shopping trolley, door handle?

Is everything else your fault too?

This is a really unhealthy pattern.

Either your husband is truly ignorant about health, or he is offloading his anger and annoyance about his illness on to you. No good and not acceptable.

If he develops heart disease when he's older, as many do, I can bet you that will be your fault as well. It's a sign of disrespect that he feels like he can do this and get away with it.

Perhaps to make it up to him next time he’s ill you could organise a good old fashioned bleeding and cupping sessions. To free the body of the evil humors.
But I’d establish now new rules for next time he’s ill because that sounds unbearable.

Put him out with the trash where he belongs.

I assume he leaves the house every day and goes into the world outside where germs lurk.
Does he work on his own, go into shops, pubs, other peoples houses?
I would just laugh at him!!
(stop ironing your bed sheets it wears them out!)

Erm no yours is an idiot.

I have to say that crap would be shut down from a very great height in my house (although we do usually privately not in front of the dc assume it is in fact the DC fault but in our defence ds2 regularly is caught licking things he really shouldn't definitely not envy).

I'd be having a serious word about this ridiculous attitude.

My exH did. The relief at being able to call him my ex is immeasurable. If he truly believes these things are illness-inducing, then he needs to take personal responsibility for his health and make sure himself that they are done.

Yes 100% I have exactly the same issue, utterly ridiculous and infuriating. I completely understand how you feel.

If he thinks the house isn't clean enough he can bloody well clean it again himself. What did his last slave die of.

This is just him and his not taking responsibility for anything, or accepting it's normal to get ill from time to time. Nip this in the bud OP. Don't accept this nonsense.

My ex blamed me because he fell over some plant pots I'd put in the path to get the rain, and he fell over them. Broad daylight and he has no visual problems. But it was my fault. Multiply this a thousand times.

My ex blamed me that he caught a sickness bug off one of the children I pointed out that I was co-sleeping with the sick child and he had vomited on/around me an awful lot and I wasn't sick

I told him to wash his hands

Severe case of cuntitis. Him, not you.

I have an image of evil cold viruses creeping through the window, weird how they only crawl up his nose and not yours...

What a shame no one manufacturers irons that men can use...

Your DH is an arse

What nonsense.
He's not washing his own hands enough if he keeps picking up bugs. You don't catch a cold from being cold or having a window open...and he has hayfever.....which is why his hayfever flares up.

He's an idiot.

He's an idiot. Also if you're responsible for all this, then he should be thanking you for every day that he's well as his immune system is probably as good as it is due to the non-ironed bedding, normal bathroom, windows open etc. Can't have it all one way.

Just think how healthy he would be living on his own.

An XP did this. We went out for a meal, he ordered something with shrimps in it. I said Are you sure? You come out in a rash when you eat seafood. He ae it, and it was my fault. then I had to drive to a petrol station in the middle of the night to get anti-hissymines.

His migraines were my fault too. He must be so healthy without me.

Does he also thank you on the days he's in good health, seeing as he thinks his health is your responsibility?

He must have worn you down completely if you are even asking this on here.

No of course not.
Help him next time - knock some tea tree spray up in a bottle and regularly spray in his face (keep it strong, you want it to sting his eyes because he is a dick :) )
It'll help keep him healthy as it's anti bacterial, anti septic, anti fungal etc..etc...

No. Partly as he doesn’t get sick much and partly as he rarely blames me for stuff that isn’t my fault / l can’t control