old friend.... what should i do?

[lilsmum]

hi wanted a bit of advice really... i was very good friends with this girl from the age of 10 to 17 but have not spoken to her for 9 years since then we have both settled down she has 2 kids and i have 1 dd. we fell out over something silly and havent spoken since but i must admit i have missed her... the thing is that she has just moved around the corner from me, she knows where i live but hasnt been round and i dont know wether to go round and knock on her door what would you do??? i know it would be a bit awkward as obviously we have both grown up alot now and are proberly different people but i just dont know what to do.. sometimes i think if she wanted to be in touch she would have come round but maybe she would feel a bit funny doing that and that is why she hasnt?! i know this all might sound a little pathetic but i dont have many friends and would be nice for us to be close again. pls give me some advice? thanks xxx

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I'd tend to say leave it and wait until you bump into her- then say helo and ask how she's getting on. you're bound to bump into her at the shops or somewhere
If however you want to be friends again- prepare yourself for rejection (just in case)and go for it- so long as you're ready to accept it may not go the way you want it then what have you got to lose good luck

I lost touch with a friend after a stupid breakdown in communication about my bf at the time. I was only about 17. I moved away and spent many years regretting the falling out, then saw her about 3 years ago on Friends Reunited (afterabout 17 years apart). I emailed her to apologise for behaving like the fool I was, and said I didn't expect her to reply, but I had always promised myself that if I had the chance I would apologise. She emailed back the same day, and gave me her number to call her. I called and it was like we had spoken only the day before. We are in daily contact now, and I don't know how I coped all those years without her , looking back. My best friend is back.

Btw she said the reason she didn't contact me was because she thought I wouldn't want to speak to her, so maybe your exf is the same? Why not drop a note through her door and see how she responds?

I think I'd probably be a bit chicken & drop a 'hi, welcome to the neighbourhood, fancy a coffee' type card thro' her letterbox at a time when she's likely to be out!

I know it's a bit feeble but she might be a bit disconcerted if you just appear - probably she's not been round for the same reasons YOU haven't, ie doesn't know if you'd be pleased to see her. At least if you leave a card for her you're making a friendly gesture...& if she's still brooding over whatever it is you fell out over 9 years ago & doesn't reply, you'll save yourself the embarrassment & awkwardness of finding that out on her doorstep!

me too - i lost touch with a really good friend some years ago but she got in touch via FR and she still is brill - the only one I've recommended this site to - get in touch if you've missed her

thanks everyone!! putting a note/card through her door is a great idea!! i am a bit of a wuss lol

thanks xx

I'd drop round a good luck in your new home card with my phone number in it and a nice message like "I'd love to get together"

oops .. must start reading responses before replying .. I see you'd already got there without me

lol @ twigglet... thanks reply still very much appreciated