is it acceptable

[ipodtherforipoor]

to dump by facebook????

Seriuosly crossing my mind alot - just want the pleasure of deleting him.

Wanker

Yes.

I would write 'tosser' on his wall.

cool - that is just the answer i wanted!!!

thread now closed!!!
before the nice people come along!

NO!!!!!!!!

new thread - "wanker or Tosser"?

cross 'nice person' post! Sorry.

what has he done?

tosser.

i have a two year old DS and was single from he was 4months. and for the last 9 months it has been nice having the constant attentions of a loving man, but now I just need my own space and he doent understand. even if we have an afternoon apart he constanly textx or calls asking why I dont love him or why I want to spend time with just DS or with my mum&Dad.

God I sound like a cow - essentially he is nice - but its just so much hard work constantly reassuring him.

I think we have just grown apart, he wants marrige and babies and I think deep down all I want is a "F*%K Buddy"!!

given your reasoning yes that would be a tad harsh to dump by facebook... sorry to be the "nice" person coming along. If he really was an ar$e then of course I would give you my full blessing to cover his wall with expletives and then delete.

think you should tell him you dont want to see him anymore, he hasnt really done anything horrible to you. sorry for being all nicey but i think you should be decent and end it as nice as poss

I know that deep down - just needed to get my"eviltwin" out before doing it the nice way

Tell him face to face (or at the very least by phone) and then don't answer texts/calls. It might be uncomfortable but its the nice way to do things.

Honestly, publically calling him a tosser or wanker because he likes you more than you like him? Pretty harsh, don't you think? If it was a guy doing to a girl then we would all be up in arms!

Ipod- I didnt realise it was because he was too in love with you- I thought he had done something awful like slept with your mate etc.

dont think being a bit 'needy' warrants the 'tosser' label.

I retract my advice!

needy - thats the word!

nightmare situation.

actually he did kiss someone on a night out while I was at home - think thats when the magic died.

looks like I know what to do and just need to do it...

i'd have dumped him then and there. hmmm maybe facebook isn't such a bad idea...

he sounds like a wanker. professes undying love for you but happens to trip and fall on the lips of some floosy. well, i never!

Depends. Are you anxious that he'll wig out completely when you chuck him, maybe throw plates or come at you with a gun? Becasue it is, just, sort of, possible that you're slightly uneasy about all this bleating, slobbering, undying love he professes (it would creep me out).

IF he's just a harmless wet wuss then the ethicla thing to do would be to meet him in a public place, tell him nicely without making loads of excuses, then walk off without a backward glance.

If you do feel the need to be ever so slightly wicked, use one or all of the following in your exit speech:

@it's not you, it's me'
'You're a lovely man and one day you'll meet the right person'
'I just need some space'

Sorry, I feel the need to defend this guy - its not bad to be in love after 9 months, is it? Its not like its only 9 days!

It seems over the top if the texts/call are that frequent - but what person hasn't done that when they feel the other person sliping away?

I won't try to defend the kissing someone else bit though - seems strange for someone who professes to being in love!

Once you've got this sorted let the next guy you just want a f**k buddy - am sure that there are plenty of guys who would be happy with that and then it will save all this hassle.

what do you say to "i'll change" "give me a chance" " you can have space"

feel like a proper bitch

'I'm sorry but I've made up my mind. Bye'