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Struggling with what’s happened and self confidence

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Lala4189 · 06/09/2020 18:39

So long story short me and my fiancé broke up December 2019 our relationship was a bit rocky due to me becoming a first time mum, his 2 kids and his ex causing problems, his daughter being diagnosed with additional needs, being a full time mum of 3, job loss then going back to work unexpectedly. Then his oldest daughter did the worst thing imaginable and went for contact to her mums and accused me and him of abusing her (this was investigated and she was given back to us within 24 hours as it wasn’t true). We broke up as it was too much for me to handle I was worried for my baby thinking he was going to be taken and things had to change at home. After 4/5 months me and him got back together and agreed to live separately which works better for us both. I found out through a conversation that me and him had that he slept with 2 people while we were separated. This hurt a lot but I was glad he told me so thought I could get over it. Turns out I’m really struggling with it. I feel low and ugly. I feel not good enough. I feel like angry and hurt. I know I have no right as we broke up and thought we weren’t going to get back together and I got back with him knowing about this but I think I’m more hurt on the fact that when we broke up he begged for me back told me he would do anything to get me back then slept with 2 other people. Please if anyone has any helping words or advice or if I’m being stupid feel free to help a woman out. 😭

OP posts:
Ludo19 · 06/09/2020 18:50

I'd struggle with that too if I'm honest! You've had so much to deal with and it's been really horrendous for you.

I could come out with the old cliche that men handle things differently. I'm not entirely sure if I believe that but in some cases in a rough situation some people don't handle a relationship breakdown well at all and look elsewhere for comfort.

I can't offer you any advice I'm afraid but I wish you well for the future x

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