Hi. I have posted before, but still am confused. Me and my husband havd been together for 14 years, married for nearly 9 and we have a 6 year old son. Things haven't always been plain sailing throughout, but I don't think a lot of relationships are. Last year I looked at his phone and I found some messages and pictures from a girl he worked with( doesn't work with her now) and I was fuming, I obviously asked him about it, he said it was just flirting, nothing happened. Roll into this year during lockdown he had a new phone and I know I shouldnt have ( I will hold my hands up, I have alot of confidence and anxiety issues) but Iooked at his old phone, he had deleted alot of stuff off of it after transferring across but on his photos there was some screenshots of some messages. The messages were between his best friend and best friends girlfriend about how she had found out he had cheated on her, so don't know if the messages / screenshots were sent to my husband asking for advice, cause the screen shots were from his best friends girlfriend to my husband. There was also a couple of other screenshots of messages from her to my husband and some were saying can I ring you now. I've done school drop off and some were a bit flirty /jokey messages, my husband caught we looking at his phone and he asked why and I just said I wanted to look and he said he thought we had gone over this in the past and we fell out for a while and this was during lockdown so we were around each other alot more, things weren't great as he was now working from home and I work in the nhs so things have been stressed and so many different changes. And since all this I have noticed he has been on his phone quite alot messaging and at I look on watsapp and he is online and so is she at the same time. And then there are days when he is hardly on his phone. We havd been round to the friends house a couple of times and I csnt notice anything weird, but obviously I am there and so is her boyfriend. We have been trying harder in our relationship and I thought things were better and we seem to talk more and have a laugh and good talks together and have done more things together and we have been talking about buying our council house, so surely getting a mortgage together is a good thing?. But I just csnt understand why they would need to message each other as it is his best friends partner and what they could be talking about? For example we were in the car yesterday and he went on his display screen on the cars dashboard to make a call and I noticed that her name was on his call list from the day before, which would be when I was at work and our son was at school and I said why did you call her and he said he didn't, he said he must have done it by accident when he was going to call someone from work, I was quiet after this and I think he could tell something was wrong and he asked if I was OK and I just said yes and then he was holding my hand and told me he loved me and then he bought a couple of things for the house that I said I liked. I tried asking a friend and she said she thinks he is only being nice to me etc as he feels guilty as he is going wrong. Im so confused abiut it all, cause the messages, screen shots and calls point to them talking alot, but he isn't on his phone every day and night and there wouldn't be any chance he has physically been and met her as he now works from home and if he goes to the gym 3/4 nights a week and he sometimes messages me whilst he is at the gym and the other nights he is home with me. Any advice would be great please