Do any other single people hate this time of year?

[DollyMixtureLulus]

It sounds really stupid but I always assume that if I were to meet someone, it would be in the summer. I’m a teacher, so have more time to date then, and my NY resolution this year was to be more social. January and February went really well and I was optimistic, but then Covid happened

I had so hoped I’d be looking forward to spending the autumn/ winter with someone.

Spend it with yourself. Be your partner for a while. Do the things you would do with that special person. Go to things, go for walks in the country, got to museums and art galleries, take up a sport. Tell yourself you love you, that you look lovely, wear your nice clothes.
Lie in in bed with a good book, cook special meals just for the hell of it.

Being by yourself is miles better than being with a complete twat.

It’s a lovely sentiment but I’ve done all that by myself for my whole adult life and there’s no joy in being alone for me any more.

You do not say how old you are or whether you are secondary or primary trained? Would you date a fellow teacher, that is assuming there are any around?
I hate to suggest old, assuming you are not using it already? If you really want to meet someone you need to make it a priority instead of letting the seasons dictate or it will pass you by.
Either get online or get out there, you will not find anyone sitting in the house.

If there's no joy in being alone you need to do something about it because Mr Right or Mr You'll Do won't bring joy either.

Could you get a dog or look after one for a few days - they are brilliant for getting people talking to you.

I was single up until the age of 24/25 and even though I had a lot going on and lots of friends the novelty wears off. I don’t think there’s anything wrong in not being happy about being single, humans crave love and affection. A lot of people will tell you they loved being single, but the longest they’ve ever been single was a few months.

I will say though that my luck romantically only really turned around when I stopped focussing on finding someone and focussed on doing things that made me happy. I went travelling, had a fling while doing so then came home and met my now fiancée two weeks later. I think maybe before I was giving off “I’m unhappy” and “I’m desperate” vibes without realising and once I shifted my focus to other things I became more attractive?

Have you tried Edudate on Twitter?

I'm 30 and in primary. I know very few male teachers and none are single or under 50.

I work too many hours in a day for a dog, unfortunately.

I haven't used Edudate... might do some snooping this afternoon. I feel very uncertain about dating with bloody covid.

Best time to look is usually just after Christmas, so I heard, as that is when people a) have time and b) are thinking about having a partner the next Christmas.

I would imagine that this year, just as there is currently a rush to buy and sell houses, people might be keen to find someone now in case there is another lockdown.

This time of year reminds me of the "relationship transfer deadline" or whatever it was called on Radio 1 - Scott Mills used to announce a date by which you should really dump your gf or bf (if you want!) so that you are not being mean by dumping them just before Christmas.

So lots of reasons people might be looking now!

I have long since stopped thinking ill meet somebody. There is more peace there. Accept being single. So many relationships are either not that good or mostly habit. I feel so much freedom now that im past caring!

This time of year reminds me of the "relationship transfer deadline" or whatever it was called on Radio 1 - Scott Mills used to announce a date by which you should really dump your gf or bf so that you are not being mean by dumping them just before Christmas.

This really made me laugh

I'm afraid I can't quash the hope in me yet. Sometimes I wish I could.

I can understand it, at 30, that you want to meet someone at some point.

True, Im 50. I am past that stage.

Me too, and I agree that it's liberating!

Try and keep dating. Even if you meet outside for a coffee or whatever. I would t put it on hold too much due to covid.

Wouldn’t

Borrow the dog. Half-term would be an ideal time to look after a pupils well trained family pooch while pupil's family go on holiday. You go on lots of walks with said pooch.

Go on Meetme and Next Door. Volunteer for something like a one-off day cleaning the banks of the local canal. Marshall at a half-marathon or join parkrun. Do something different.
Go to the supermarket in the nearest town instead of the usual one.
Go to different shops.

Think of doing a different hobby - try one that is either more male oriented or is very sociable or one where you will make female friends.Try the local church when they are open, or something similar.

Good advice from MikeUniformMike.
In a the primary sector I can see there might be a lack of potential males.
Do you have any friends within the school you socialise with? I widened my circle of friends that way and met partners in the past through them or on nights out with them.
Have you tried old?
The movies make it look so easy.

I would get back on OLD meeting people, you can do outside drinks or coffees easier now while it's still warm than waiting until its freezing.

Ah, it's "cuffing season" from Oct-ish.

Thanks @crimsonlake.

OP, I'd look at what people consider red flags, and make sure that when you meet someone, and you will, you know what your boundaries are.
OLD is not ideal.

Make sure you know what lovebombing is, what grooming is, and that you know what are signs of disrespect, cheating and abuse.

I'm not saying you don't know anything, but if you are looking for a man to make your life complete you will be quite vulnerable. The things I mentioned in my previous paragraph will often be very subtle, but if you know to look out for them, you will be more likely to protect yourself.

Grooming - if he is an abuser he'll be testing how much of a pushover you are.
Lovebombing - it will look like he is totally smitten with you, and things will be moving very quickly. It will be troo lurve for him, and this can be very attractive. When you're strolling in the sunshine hand-in-hand as love's young dream, you won't be thinking about it all going wrong.
Disrespect - could be a general attitude towards others such asd waiting staff, or using words like bitch or dog for a woman, to attitudes about stag night behaviour, or comments about you. Know where your limits are.
Red flags - all sorts but things like no access to his DC, his XP is a psycho, not meeting his friends and family, drug/alcohol abuse..., being controlling ,...

At the first sign of shit, dump him.

Make sure you and he are on the same page re having children fairly early on. 30 is young but not that young if you are hoping to have a family.

Oh, and keep your life full, make sure you have a social circle, and even if you meet Mr Right, there may be a day when you are alone again. You might be a little old granny by then but ykwim.

I'm sure there are some nice men out there but there are things I learnt the hard way.

No, I quite like September and October.

I'm single and a teacher and I love this time of year. Autumn is the best. I liberated myself by not thinking that being in a relationship is desirable or necessary. Love it.

I’m exactly the same but 36! Single for almost 6 years so definitely don’t need more “me” time. Really nervous about dating at the moment as was on the Shielding list and have dependant vulnerable family who I moved in with in lockdown. Hoped this year would be different then Covid screwed me over!

Following with interest