A friend has repeatedly cancelled on me over the last 6 months or so, however she has been going through a chaotic time. She has separated from her long-term partner and appears to be drinking a lot and mixing with other people who she goes out drinking with. Now and then, she calls me to talk about what's been going on and I enjoy our catch-ups but I then don't hear from her for a month again.
I'm not really into the drinking lifestyle anymore, so have declined a couple of invitations to go out drinking with her and the new friends she's made.
I bumped into her yesterday and she was hungover; she looked exhausted and she had clearly gained a lot of weight. I've been going through a personal issue of my own, which she knows about, but she's obviously been struggling herself.
She mentioned us meeting up soon, but I'm sure it won't happen. Eventually, I'm sure this phase will pass as she gets over her relationship break-up and she'll be wanting to reignite our friendship again. Her current lifestyle isn't maintainable. What happens when she slows down and she wants us to meet up again? She hasn't been a particularly good friend to me over the last 6 months, but she clearly is struggling. I don't have many friends at the moment and I don't want to hang on to a "friend" if she isn't really a good one anymore. Any thoughts?