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Heart broken

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Tellyouboutphaedra · 05/09/2020 02:59

I don’t know if anyone’s awake. Today my ex told me that he has downloaded dating apps. I said that was fine by me because I couldn’t say anything else as I initiated the split due to ongoing arguments. We have been split up for a month now but we still live together. When I think of him meeting other women I feel like I don’t want to be here anymore, it is all unbearable and I’m so very tired. He keeps saying we must both move on as soon as possible which I sort of understand but it’s so painful.I really just don’t want to wake up in the morning and I don’t want to ring the Samaritans either. I’ve just had enough now

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Tellyouboutphaedra · 05/09/2020 03:01

How can he want to move on so quickly? It’s a slap in the face.

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EosBringsDaylight · 05/09/2020 03:06

Oh OP. I'm so sorry to hear this. If you are feeling that low please do call the Samaritans or a friend for support.

How could you both "move on" when you still live in the same house still?? He is being an arse and needs to behave like an adult, deal with the end of this relationship and then when you have separate homes it would be appropriate to date if he wishes to.

Honestly, anybody who could behave like this at the end of a relationship rather than try to minimise the hurt, is not worth your time. Disgusting flaunting it in your face like that to try to get a reaction.

Who owns the house? Can you kick him out/ leave and get away from him?

Anordinarymum · 05/09/2020 03:06

I really think you should not be living together, it is not helping and you will not move on until you are living separately. Hope you are ok

rebecca102 · 05/09/2020 03:06

You ended it with him. He can do what he wants. I know why he's even telling you, it's none of your business.

PornStarOvaltini · 05/09/2020 18:20

You are in a very difficult situation op. It could be his way of punishing you or he's being insensitive but whichever, he's being unnecessarily hurtful. Try and focus on why you decided to end the relationship and, if you can, remember that he'll no doubt be the same with any future partners. You have probably done the right thing for you in the long run but there will be bumps along the way. Try and stay strong - you have a better future ahead. X

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