Backstory is that we have been together 3.5yrs. I have 2 DD and was single for most of their lives. Met him3 years ago he has 2 DC who are lovely although I do struggle with lack of work ethic from his DS 18 who is a bit daft, telling us all about his sexual conquests, no job etc. Do has depression and anxiety which translates into time off work, always blaming himself etc. I have a great job and work really hard to support us all but resent coming home and cooking cleaning etc every night. DSC only come once a fortnight but we have a big rented house together and I so everything plus do up my own house hoping to rent out. We have had some awful arguments with him calling me a C**t and badmouthing me.
My eldest dad is off to uni and he has been horrid- accusing me of fancying her boyfriend and being OTT with her mates.
He struggles with his own self esteem and I feel like I’ve been very compliant And tried not to antagonise but he’s been screaming at me tonight telling me all of my faults and not listening.
I was in my own for 9 years and built up a career and a life which I hope he’d add to but every day is a battle about how he feels his mood etc.
Don’t know what I’m asking but surely life shouldn’t be this hard?
I have a house in my name which need a refurb- he won’t help me and we rent a lovely house together. He is still married and won’t tell me what he earns or plan anything with me. He hates himself:: drinks loads, has put in weight etc and I’m no oil painting but I don’t want this.
After 8 years alone I’m glad to have a partner and at 51 I worry he is my only chance. I also do not want to move as I love our rented house and it’s helped my kids no end after years of being I a 2 up 2 down.
God- what can I do? I am so together professionally but this is something else!!!