What to do...

[KittyLee01928]

Would really appreciate your advice here.

I'm late 20s & living in an expensive UK city: currently earn £50k, hopefully to increase by about £10k soon, and single.

I really want to meet someone but havent as yet although have had s/t relationships. Quite lonely but good group of friends & forecast to WFH for the foreseeable hence keen to branch out and meet more people now that lockdown is loosening.

I would be able to buy a small property where I live (perhaps letting 1 room out) or potentially buy property elsewhere in the country which I could rent out while I rent in my city.

My question is: what to do? Appreciate am in fortunate position by luck rather than design as this is due to an inheritance sadly. And needless to say am very grateful.

Do I wait until I hopefully meet someone and buy with them? Get my foot on the ladder either in my city or another city? It would be nice to have someone to enjoy life with & I have been hurt so many times/the old self-esteem has taken quite a battering...

I havent been as proactive as I could dating wise last few year: probably had around 12 first dates, around 4 of which went on for a few more dates/short term relationships of a few weeks/months. My plan from now on is to really focus on getting some good hobbies and meet people through these.

I am concerned I am putting my life on hold waiting to meet "the one" and really dont want to do that either...

thanks in advance

Well, if it was me I'd buy, especially if rent is expensive. If you meet someone you want to buy with, you could always rent out your place.

Definitely dont put your life on hold. At your age I was having the time of my life meeting lots of people, travelling and finding out what I wanted.

@Windmillwhirl thank you! that was what I needed to hear! I am quite sociable but obviously with covid travelling etc all out the window for now. I think I will make some plans for next year: travelling, meeting people, the works as have just come out of a stressful work period and hoping to have a lot more free time now!

Can I ask, WRT the travelling and meeting people, did you travel with friends or solo? I have a good and close knit friendship group but finding that more are settling down now so travel pool getting a little narrower! I am tempted to just go by myself, on group hols e.g. yoga camps. Could you recommend? And thanks again!

Re travel, I did both. Moved to a European city for a few years with friends and later moved on my own to another country where I currently live. I've been here 20 years this year

I was never a homebody (difficult childhood, etc) so it suited me to move away and stay away.

Sorry, meant to add I never did singles holidays although I know friends who did and loved it. Someknecrlse may have ideas on what companies are good, although I'm sure Google can help!

Do what you want while you have youth on your side. I'm glad I did.

In your position I'd definitely buy a house or flat either to live in or rent out. As and when you meet someone you can sell it and use the equity or keep it and rent it out. Whichever you choose, do make sure you protect your asset. And definitely do some travelling if you're in a position to. Have fun

Relationships come and go, and can be very upsetting.
Get yourself safe, get a home.
Protect what you have.
If love happens great! Don't settle for a useless waste of space.