At what point in a relationship do you have 'the talk'?

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About where things are going? When to become exclusive etc.

In my experience it should feel very natural so there isn't really a "right time", it just happens.

DH and I both deleted our online dating profiles and agreed we were a proper couple after about three weeks. We'd been seeing each other 3-4 times per week at that point and were talking every day.

I think after a couple of dates you know if you want to be exclusive or carry on searching, don't be scared to ask, it's your time and energy your putting in.

@BlusteryShowers

In my experience it should feel very natural so there isn't really a "right time", it just happens.

DH and I both deleted our online dating profiles and agreed we were a proper couple after about three weeks. We'd been seeing each other 3-4 times per week at that point and were talking every day.

That was the way it happened with me and my DW.

If you feel you have a special connection with someone OP have the chat. Better to find out early whether you are both on the same page.

A few years ago I briefly dated a chap who wasn’t ready to be a exclusive so I continued to date others. When he found out he was really cross, so he could play the field however expected me to only be with him 🙄. It ended at that point, however two years on he still messages me occasionally saying that he misses me. His loss!

After a couple of dates I asked my DH and he said "there's potential" (whatever that means) so I made it clear if he wanted to try then we'll try but I'm not being strung along - fast forward four years we're married with a baby on the way

About a month in - we’d been seeing each other twice a week - I just asked him if he was seeing other people too. He said no, and that he didn’t want to.

For us it was after a few weeks of meeting!

It wouldn't enter my head to ask if my romantic partner was seeing anyone else. I've never asked anyone about exclusivity, I've assumed it.

Never managed to see more than one person concurrently so it hasn't cropped up, now married 16 years so unlikely to.

It was five or six months before we had the official chat

Definitely started slow, just seeing each other once a week and texts a few times in between, for the first couple of months, then increased from there.

But i wasn't seeing anyone else during that time - I think that was implicit. It was more about 'how serious are we' rather than 'let's not date other people'.

Before we slept together. I didn't want sex with someone who was still seeing other people.

When it felt right. I normally sleep with them quite early on to check sexual compatibility and I find it normally happens around then.

Before having sex as I'm not the 'happy to share' kinda woman

Are we talking about a man here?
Never had to have this convo. All the truly interested men I dated would ask for exclusivity in the first month. My husband was trying to work out if I was dating anyone else after the second date. Really if you're questioning this it's probably not right.