Silent treatment... it’s absolutely draining

[Bence69]

My ex husband of 16 years is the king of silent treatment. Going through a messy divorce for the past two years & communication is pretty non existence. It was our daughters first day at high school today, I sent photos, a message to say she went off fine & a message to say she had a good day. He has ignored them all. I’ve no idea why I’m surprised he spent 6 weeks giving me the silent treatment when we were married while I was pregnant for the 3rd time & undecided what I wanted to do. I’m pretty sure the silent treatment is a form of abuse & people who do it are just cunts! Anyone else’s ex or current hubby/partner dis out this treatment ?

Don't bother with contacting him anymore.
If he wants pics or updates, he'll contact you.

You're divorcing him and yet still people pleasing. Presumably he's a prick so unless he asks for pics just save yourself the bother.

Always try to be the bigger person but I don’t know why I bother. And yes he is a prick a grade A one at that x

You are right about silence being an aggressive act on occasions.

Just stop contact.

He shouldn’t be ignoring you, but you’ve kinda enabled him to do that by sending the unsolicited photos in the first place. He doesn’t deserve your care or trouble so don’t bother next time.

@MsWonderful

He shouldn’t be ignoring you, but you’ve kinda enabled him to do that by sending the unsolicited photos in the first place. He doesn’t deserve your care or trouble so don’t bother next time.

You hit the nail on the head right there 👍🏻

Silent treatment is absolutely abusive within a relationship....however when the relationship is over many people want, need or choose to go low or no contact with their ex, that's not silent treatment.
That doesn't mean that he's not using his silence as a weapon to hurt you or anything...but it's not the same as when it's used within a relationship.

Don't bother to send him pics and updates anymore

How sad, at least you've tried to keep the contact going for your daughters sake, I'm sure she will at least appreciate you've tried.
Just leave it up to him now.

I had 20 years of it and its soul destroying. It's such a relief to be divorced.
Just ignore the twat. Dont send him anything and he can sulk his way into an early grave.

He is a spineless twat and always has been. We also have a disabled son together who he also won’t communicate about.