Divorce or separation, which is better? Any ideas?

[Motherof2pearls]

Divorce or separation, which is better? Any ideas?

Hi, I find myself in the unfortunate position of seeking an end to my marriage. (Husband wants an open marriage for his adulterous affairs, which is the exact opposite of my wishes).

I’ve only made a decision this morning and I’m feeling a bit shaky about it. Been married for nearly 30 years, most of them happy. But I need to do this, so ideas please! Separation? Divorce? I’d really appreciate it if people could give me honest opinions. Thank you

One is likely to lead to the other IME. Are you in a position to separate financially, or would you need to get divorced to get all that in order?
I was in the fortunate position of being able to leave and buy my own home, then after two years start a no-fault divorce. But not everyone is.

Both? You don't need to rush into a divorce but on the other hand, he's not going to change so ultimately a divorce is best.

If there's no going back for you, then I would go straight to divorce - you can then get everything financial and otherwise sorted out for good and be able to move on with your life.