Hi,
Really worried about what I should do for the best. Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 years. In the first year of our relationship I found out that he had been sending explicit messages to another women, videos and pictures etc. I was really upset as this is something that was completely out of character from the person who I had known all this time. He would never explore anything like this with me. He said that he compartmentalised this to our relationship and it was just a fantasy world but he would never do it again. He said that he never had any intentions of meeting this women. I confronted the woman and she confirmed they had never met and she thought he was a fantasist due to them never meeting.
This Christmas I found out he had been doing it again but with a different women. He moved out for a couple of weeks but then I forgave him and he came back just before Chrismas day. Again, he blamed himself and said he had been stupid and us splitting for a short while had made him realise what was going on. I confronted this women and again she confirmed that this had only ever been messages.
I am now 16 weeks pregnant. When we found out it was a shock. When I was 6 weeks pregnant I found out that he had been searching for local prostitutes on his phone. He denies seeing them but given his history I don't believe him in the slightest. We have been living separately since.
I have no idea what to do for the best now. I know this is my fault for giving him chance after chance but I love him and I wanted us to work. I believed him when he said he would change and I only saw the good in him. He said he would book counselling when he first moved out 10 weeks ago and he hasnt done this either. My family all say to just go through with the split before the baby is born and share parental responsibility. Just feels like such a shame