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Has it run it course

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moolady1977 · 02/09/2020 22:29

Been with oh for three years we live together and have done since three month in ,we both have dcs but not together . In the beginning and for a good two years we have been brilliant together only really daft arguments nothing serious until my dd fell pregnant now it's rows most weeks about how I'm spending all my time with her on my days off how I'm neglecting the house and housework and he is having to do everything , I've tried to explain that I'm doing my best re housework but am in pain all the time with my back and am doing my best think 10 minutes doing dishes and my back is screaming it doesn't help that I do a housekeeping job so come home in pain anyway and am getting by on painkillers most days .
Tonight after not talking to me for a couple of days he said he is setting ground rules and if I don't like it then it's tough , I really feel like saying shove your rules but at minute I'm stuck for somewhere to stay although I could spend a couple of days where I work .
Has it run its course or do I just keep trying and hopefully make him realise I'm doing my best

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SentientAndCognisant · 02/09/2020 22:55

You know the answer already, he’s setting you rules to control and subdue you
You argue, it doesn’t feel right.,Yes it sounds over. He’s domineering & controlling
Get a plan how to safely leave, start to scope your options out

Stella8686 · 02/09/2020 23:12

He is setting ground rules...

Set some of your own! Get kids and DP doing housework.

But really! Do you want to stay 🙄 I'd be off

cakeandchampagne · 03/09/2020 00:33

Not talking to you for days and creating rules for you?
You can’t “make him realise” anything- he will just keep mistreating you & controlling you.
You can create a better life without him.

Egghead68 · 03/09/2020 01:55

He is setting rules. Wow.

You know what you need to do.

Anordinarymum · 03/09/2020 01:58

He's setting ground rules ?

LOL

Tell him to stick them

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