Anyone out of a marriage and literally just wanting to have fun for a few years?

[Louise000000]

I'm 35, out of a 10 year marriage last summer.
Been dating a few guys but I'm actually so happy on my own just now and a bit of fun is good but I can't imagine settling down with a man again. Anyone else, will this pass do you think? Just wondering if I'll be one of these people who is scared of getting serious with someone again knowing what I know now and how things can sour!!

Having been in a similar position, the feeling passed in about 6 months.

It does really depend on what the relationship was like, the less hurtful, the sooner you'll want to try again and the happier and more hopeful you'll feel about it.

This can all be changed with a mindset of viewing the world as full of endless opportunities, just waiting to present themselves to you when you're emotionally and mentally ready.

Great feeling to have OP, enjoy every second!

I'm 10 years out of a marriage and it has not passed for me. I'm not scared of another relationship - I simply don't want one. Being single suits me and there is no reason to change what I have.

I LOVE the post marriage freedom! I’ve had a lot of fun😉 and am only now looking for a relationship because of Covid. Just want someone to be a regular fixture in case we have another lockdown. And I’m ready.
Being in a relationship is overrrated. Don’t settle for anything less that what you are after. Single and happy is better than being in a mediocre relationship when you’ve just managed to escape ...a mediocre relationship.

I’m 43 and just coming out of a 16 year marriage (23 years together) and I plan to stay single and enjoy life On my own terms first before I consider dating.

I did that, same age as you and also out of a 10year marriage. I had so much fun dating loads of guys and then met my wonderful oh. I wasn't ready, he waited, here we are nearly 2 decades later!!! I'm glad I had my fun.

I came out a ltr a few years ago. I've had another relationship since then and another baby! But I would never want go back to living with a man. It is so much better having my own space (with the kids).

I just need to find the time and energy for 'fun', so I hope y'all dont mind if I come along for the ride right now.

Got divorced last year, tried OLD but not really a fan. I haven't really had any dates but sometimes have drunken fun with a friend of mine. I'd rather that than fun with new guys I don't really know, but some dates with guys I meet in real life rather than online would be nice! I like living by myself but it does get a bit lonely sometimes, I struggled a lot when we weren't allowed out much, but things are easier now I can see my friends again.

Have all the fun you want, just be smart about it. Watch out for red flags, set firm boundaries, and don't get pregnant. That will end the fun real fast.

OMG, you betcha! After an abusive marriage and then a bad relationship (narc) ended all I wanted was fun and freedom. But for me that meant travel, parties, and going out dancing with friends. The last thing I wanted was to be tied down.

I didn't 'date' for about 18 months, it took that long to get my head on straight. But boy did I have fun!!!

I wouldn't say the feeling ever really went away as I certainly wasn't looking to settle down when a friend introduced me to DH. It was a 'coup de foudre' and we've been married over 30 years now.

I ended my 17 year marriage just over 2 years ago, we were divorced this January.

It was an emotionally abusive marriage and my plan was to remain single forever and have a FWB or 2.

Fast forward to now and somehow I'm about to celebrate 1 year with a guy i met on a casual sex site.
This was never the plan and when we met we were up for casual sex a few times a week but as the months went on we spent more and more time together and somehow we ended up in a relationship.

My plan of being single forever has obviously gone out of the window but there are no plans to ever live together, i personally dont think i can live with a man ever again even though this guy is amazing and so different to my ex.

I love living on my own (well, with grown up children), i dont want to argue about housework and finances with anyone.
I want all the fun and no drudgery.
He has a son at primary school and also has no plans to live with someone.

So its pretty perfect - everything i need in a relationship but without living together.

Definitely go off and have fun

I'm 9 years out. Ds is 12 and getting more self sufficient by the day.

I've just started considering whether a new relationship might be a good thing in the last few months. I haven't done anything about it yet Being single is so relaxing.

I'm feeling all of the replies here.
I too cannot imagine wanting to be tied down. I feel like the genie in the lamp being set free it's such a liberating feeling and I'm enjoying every min.
I've got 3 young DC so I'm busy with them at home and when they go to their dads itts nice having a male friend to hang out with etc etc but that's all.