DH looking at escorts on net but not interested in me!!!

[cathcat]

Thought Dh had low sex drive until last week I found a list of escort websites on the history page of internet. He said it was 5 minutes of clicking and an accident but I counted 18 sites which is more like an addiction to me than an accident. Just been on holiday where I thought he would make it up to me but he didn't come near me - I got the blame for this, he thought I 'wasn't interested'. He works every night ( and I mean every night) and every weekend so who knows when we will get time together again and frankly I feel we are at the end. Can't go on like this. any thoughts?

When you say he works every night do you mean he stays late in work every night?

yes his work means he finishes around 12 or 1am but he stays later and doesn't come home until 3am ( i think, because i am asleep and he is never clear about what time he came in)

Can you be sure he isn't actually meeting escorts of an evening? I'd be very suspicious tbh.

No I don't think so as the agencies were all far away from where we live and also his work place is a public place. he did sound genuinely convincing that he was just looking at the pictures when i confronted him about it.

Then you need to sit down and talk about your feelings with him and see if you can make time together.

tried that...now he is back in his work routine he will just carry on living his life and ignoring me. He has no concept that i am isolated by being at home with kids and him at work all the time. Whenever I try to explain it to him he says he would love to be at home with the kids all day. i work too, part time. i feel too young to be stuck in a rut like this!!

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Sorry for leaving you in the lurch I had to go out yesterday. You really need to sit him down and talk about this tell him you are seriously thinking about leaving him unless it changes. Someone will probably come along on here with more experience than me on the issue and be able to advise you better.

Is there any way you could get him to book a day off work and spend some time together without the children/

How old are you both and how old are the children and how long have you been together?

(Just getting some background here!)

do you want to be with him or do you feel it is over? do you ever spend time together?