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Is this it now?!

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Trasme · 02/09/2020 16:42

Just feeling a bit like giving up. I lost everything at the start of last year, fiancé, prospect of a family, my job, my home. I’ve carried on but along the way I’ve just felt deflated. I have counselling and have done plenty of great things in life for me, while single. Got hobbies and some great friends. Life is ok. I do things ‘for me’ and try and make the most of everything. I enjoy work and my new house. It’s all ok and more than most have I’m sure.

But I just sit here so often and think how did I end up with this life alone? I’m 36 and it wasn’t in the plan to be single still.

I don’t need a man, I don’t need someone to fulfil me. I know a partner doesn’t fix your problems or create a forever happiness. I’m not deluded.

I am hugely lonely though, in the romantic sense, and short of carrying on as I am and dating and trying to meet someone... what else can I do? I don’t want to wake up forever alone, I want a partner.

Has anyone been here? Do you get used to it in time or what? Feels bleak. I don’t want to jet off travelling or do something dramatic. I just want to share my life with someone, as it is. It’s not a desperate plea but a lonely one.

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seensome · 02/09/2020 17:49

Don't give up, I think you just feel fed up at not meeting anyone new, keep looking but don't exhaust yourself, only date if you genuinely feel excited by going on a date with someone.
Keep seeing your friends and doing your hobbies. This year in particular probably hadn't been the best to find a partner with the Covid going on, keep with it and you will find someone, it's just it doesn't always happen when you want it to.

Trasme · 02/09/2020 17:53

Yeah I guess that’s true, just can’t believe I’m this age and still haven’t met someone right for me.

I mentioned it to some friends the other day and they were all ‘oh think of all the things you can do being single’....I did those things for nearly a decade before my fiancé and have done it again the last year...I just want to settle down!

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