When to introduce new boyfriend?

[Scarlymama]

Me and my partner of ten years split up 6 months ago- I was miserable for a couple of years and it was my decision, I’ve been seeing someone for a couple of months, he’s been a friend for years and I’m really happy- the kids already know him as my friend but I was wondering when might be the right time to introduce him as my boyfriend?! This is a first for me so just wanted advice.. I was thinking in a few months time? Thanks so much xx

The advice on here is usually a minimum of 6 months but you say they know him as your friend. I think it would depend on how they are coping with you splitting up with your ex-partner.

How old are your DC?

You only split up six months ago, it’s not very long to then be introducing someone else as your boyfriend, even if they do know him.

IMO when you feel secure in the relationship.

It may also depend on how the children feel about the separation. They may need to accept it's fully over first and adjust to the new situation. So, when you feel they are stable enough and adapted to mum and dad being separated.

Has he introduced you to anyone important? You can't know he's serious at this stage. As others have said I would wait until at least six months. I didn't introduce my dc to my now dh until he proposed

Not yet. Thats for sure....
Your kids know him as your friend. Keep it like that. Their parents just split up and now you want to drop this on them? Nope... poor kids

Id wait a year, you really dont know if the relationship has legs till at least 6months (thats when cracks start to show) but a year to be safe. They have been through a lot very recently, imagine how terrible you will feel about involving them if this doesnt work out. They already know him as a friend, so stick with that for now, which makes it easier anyway.

I’ve been separated nearly 2 years, in a new relationship for 13 months and my DD knows the new guy as “my friend”. She’s 9 so that’s probably all she needs to know. He is mostly here when she isn’t. She likes him, he’s funny. We don’t plan to move in together. I’m affectionate with him in front of her but it’s not unlike me to hug family and friends anyway.

Do your kids need to know you are in a relationship? Does he need to stay over when they are there? Are the old enough to understand he is not just a friend?

In my case there’s no need to get into it so I just don’t. He is my boyfriend but to her he is just a friendly face she sees on FaceTime now and then or who very occasionally pops round to watch TV with mum.

Yeahnamum that's unnecessarry. OP is clearly sensible and trying to consider her children's needs and you want to turn it into a guilt trip about her "poor kids."
OP I waited 6 months to introduce my kids to new boyfriend and have no regrets. They adore him and clearly benefit from having him in their lives.
You are best placed to decide what they can/can't cope with.
In my case I think my DC were relieved that I was happy again and seeing me laugh and be treated respectfully was very valuable to them.

Depends on age, how well they know him, how serious your relationship is ... I told my DD's before my first in person date and showed a picture, met after 2 weeks but they are young adults.

Hi thanks folks, they are 8 and 9 so still quite young- I have no need to rush it really, was just wanting advice, 6 month sounds sensible and actually I like the idea of ‘mums friend’ - they wouldn’t need to know anything else anyway really- he’s usually here if they aren’t here or pops round for a coffee once a week or so, which he would’ve done anyway. X