Are you and your partner/husband on same views about coronavirus?

[Watford1990]

Do you have the same views about the coronavirus situation and effectively where we are now with it.

How do you manage it if your not in the same views?

Id like to live a bit more and let the children get closer to the grandparents ny husband is very anxious still about and does not want to.

I cant help but think its going to cause a riff in our relationship which i wouldn't want

Yes ... we have the same views (fairly relaxed, living our 'normal' lives, seeing elderly relatives but not going abroad), it must be very difficult if you and your DH have opposing opinions on how to deal with the situation.

But don't ask about our individual views on Brexit

Yes we do.
Shielding is over now...
What about a socially distanced meet up.

Oh brexit yes his very political anyway so we do clash .
Well we've kind of came to an agreement of basically don't tell him what I do if I let the kids hug /hold hands get closer ect. But he still will pester me like "soooooo how was your parents or how was my parents with distancing.... and I just reply you didn't want me to tell you anything so I'm not" but there's been a few times he sees a photo his mum sends him and his dad is quite close and he comment nice to see dads distancing well... and it does make me feel incredibly guilty

We are on the same page now but during lockdown DH and his family didnt take it as seriously as I was taking it. I am pregnant, so I was being very cautious. They were not. DH and I discussed things. We discuss everything, and compromise.

In relationships there are always times where people dont agree. You just always discuss frankly, listen to each other, and maybe one person compromises for the other.

We do have slightly different views. I'm happy to follow govt advice, and he wants to wait longer.

We manage okay with compromise. He has come on days out to theme parks with us, but we didn't go and visit his family in the same area as we travelled to as he felt seeing family was a bigger risk (to them).

Luckily my children aren't his, so I make my choices for them, he makes his choice for his. Not sure how it would work if we shared children.

To be fair to him, his mum had been shielding, so he is probably quite scared. I've been working in the NHS throughout, and have followed all policies, and am probably more relaxed as we get hospital updates on cases which has been reassuring.

Yes, we do.

Not completely. At the start of lockdown, i tried hard to keep the rules, while he was more relaxed. For example, i couldnt stop him popping to the corner shop regularly for non essentials. Now the rules are more relaxed, we are more on the same page but i am a bit more cautious. We both go out to work, and are happy to sit outside a pub or cafe, but I'm more wary than he is about sitting inside, though we have done it a couple of times ( in places i felt safe). I had a ( negative) Covid test last week for a mild cough and bit of a metallic taste in my mouth, im not sure dh would have booked a test for the same thing.

Yes, generally speaking, we do. I'm an infectious disease scientist and well, dh isn't a loon who doesn't believe in science, so he generally defers to me on these sorts of things because I know more about it.

But I also am in a well paid salaried position where I get full pay no matter how long I need to take off sick or to self-isolate. Dh is self-employed. If one of us gets sick, the other has to self-isolate too and take care of dc full time who won't be able to be in school/nursery. That's annoying for me, but for dh means potentially a month or more of lost income if we all got ill in succession. He's pretty sensibly motivated to not lose a month's income.

That said, I think generally the more cautious person's needs should take priority, as long as they aren't over the top controlling, as in the general scheme of things, it's all temporary and things will get better in time.

I honestly hadn't really thought of it until this thread, but yes we've been on the same wavelength throughout. I think on a couple of occasions one of us might have comprised if the other wanted to be slightly more cautious.

Then again, her dad was very, very ill with it early on so I guess we both took it seriously at that point.

I will say - we live in Denmark and I think we probably have a bit more faith in our government than many of you have in the UK one (certainly more than I have with the UK one!) so for instance when they reopened schools very early on (11th April) we had very little concern sending our three back as the government seemed to be listening to the scientists. It actually turned out they'd been more cautious than the scientists had recommended.