Dd5 not sleeping day 2

[Crazymadame]

So dd5 stays at her dads at the weekend. He isn't set up properly and has to have her sleep in her bed. (A topic of many arguments between us).

Result is that dd will not sleep in her bed when shes at home with me. I'm on day 3 of her waking day 11.30 and crying screaming and tears.
She doesnt like her bed. She wants to sleep in my bed.

I'm so frustrated as she used to be a good sleeper.
For info I've been split with her dad over 18 months. But previously she stayed in a spare room at his gf.

Just airing frustration. She is going to be knackered tomorrow again and so will I. Look forward to work.

Correction. She sleeps in her dads bed. Hence why she wants to be in mine.

My dd was like this. She still will always try and sneak in to dad's bed when he's not looking but she very rarely tries it with me now because I don't let her. I tell her when she is at my house she sleeps in her own bed. She's only 7.
It's very annoying. You have my sympathy.

Thanks @Delbelleber. It seems like every week I'm starting sleep training again. Its exhausting!

OP, she's struggling with her parents' separation. Dont forget that for a 5 year old, her whole world has literally been been torn apart. It takes a long time to adjust, and there can be setbacks down the line.

The parenting mumsnet thread may have some useful sleeping tips

She may also benefit from counselling to help her through this difficult period. I'm sure you ex taking up with a new woman who then also seems to have left too, is not helping things at all.

You have my sympathy too.

As long as he gets his parental rights though eh.

My 2 both had one of those airbed/sleeping bag all-in-ones for sleeping away, could that work at dad's? She can bring it home and camp in her bedroom too if she doesn't like her own bed.

18m is a fair time for her to have adjusted to her new 'normal' of having seperated parents and 2 homes, I disagree with pp that she is still traumatised by the change. Struggling with the relationship tensions between mum and dad perhaps - please speak to school to see if they can keep an eye on her, do they have a mentor/buddy scheme?

Where is her dad living now? What's the plan with sleeping arrangements long term? Are you legitimately concerned about her sleeping in bed with him? Remember there are some kids in the UK - probably in your own town - who don't have beds at all, maybe not even a mattress, or who have to share with siblings or parents for myriad reasons.

Her dad is staying with his parents. I've suggested airbeds etc to him but he says it's a waste of money and he wont have her sleeping on one as she sleeps fine when shes there.
I'm exhausted. She's starting school and I'm really concerned this will affect her.

I totally get that there are other kids who dont have this luxury but I am able to afford this for her and have also given her dad money to sort this out (another bone of contention).
He says he's trying his best and refuses to discuss it. But in my opinion its not good enough as there are other options available which he refuses.