A few months ago I met a lovely guy on hinge, we had a few lovely dates and then I didn’t hear from a few days. He’d just moved to a new big city (where I live) and started a new demanding job involving night shifts. We’d kissed but hadn’t slept together, if that’s relevant. He said after the few days that he’d been thinking and that he needed to be more settled and in the correct frame of mind for dating seriously which he wasn’t presently whilst everything is so new. I thanked him for letting me know and we ended on a good note.
I’ve been thinking about messaging him to ask how he is/ where he is up to and if he fancied going for a drink. Part of me thinks nothing ventured nothing gained but part of me thinks what if he was actually just being polite and has moved on. I can’t make my mind up whether I should message at all and if so what I should say. I also then have doubts about how long it would take to feel suitably ‘settled’. Any wise advice would be appreciated.