Domestic abuse

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Hello, I’m at a complete loss at what to do, I was a stay at home parent for 6 years my partner is director of two large companies and I was also in a financially controlled relationship, constantly being accused of wasting her money and not getting house work done to her standards, I once tried to do some ironing in the Evening and she started shouting at me she could be doing that as she love ironing and I’m stopping her doing, it that was over two years ago and she’s not pick up iron once, I now have a part time job that my partner got me with school hours (so I can still look after the kids as she struggle with them) in her office where she belittles me she’s telling me I’m the worse person she’s every trained (whilst the manager is saying I’m one of the best and they don’t want to lose me) and over the weekend she decided to have a go, screaming at me and for the first time I stood up for myself tried to get our daughter away from her and she punched me in the face in front of both our children (they’re 5 and 6) I shout at her that’s she’s nothing more than an abuser and say I’m worried if she’ll hit me them the children could be next we need to leave the who time I’m trying to get my daughter away from her and she’s pulling at her lots of crying going on from kids, then we both take a moment to settle kids, now she’s made me leave the house which she owns and I’ve had to leave the kids there which doesn’t sit right with me there’s hardly been a day since they’ve been born where I haven’t read them a story and full bedtime routine whilst she’s downstairs on her phone, even though I have a job now I still do nearly all the looking after the kids, all the cleanly, cooking and laundry, I just want to know where I stand as it doesn’t sit right that I should leave I should surely be one to stay and look after the kids as normal, last time I let her put kids to bed she didn’t even brush there teeth from a legal standpoint can I take the kids with me so I know they’re looked after property as my main job and focus for last 7 years has been to raise my kids,

Please help

You are in an abusive relationship and need to call womens aid asap. Personally I would call the police and then get a non molestation order and occupancy order. NCDV will be a great help with these. Company director ort not she still needs to keep to the law. Try to leave with the kids if you can, good luck

She punched you infront of your children? Id be reporting her for assault and no amount of emotional blackmail from her would stop me. This situation will only get worse if you dont act now. If you dont want to do it for yourself do it for your children. This is not a good enviroment for them to be and id be removing them from the house if possible...sorry you are going through this

I got a number to call for a local woman’s aid but they’re shut (bank holiday) I spoke to my manager at work and she’s been very understanding and believes me but without any proof or witnesses it’s going to be hard to prove, my face may really hurt cause it was quite a whack but it’s only a little bit red, Also my gf is her boss and she has said normally she wouldn’t speak like this about her but she figured she got all her anger out at work but she doesn’t it’s home life she takes it out and she has noticed she’s a good manipulator and has heard her on the phone switching personalities on a coin

I’m so scared I miss my kids my anxiety is going mad.

What's the situation legally OP? Are you on their birth certificates and have you married or had a civil partnership. Who owns the house or who is the tenant? I know from my own experience that once I was being hit, my DC were soon after. I got out with my DC. I hope you can resolve this.

I’m on birth certificate she owns the house and both our cars we were saving to get married she said if I put all my wages into one of her savings account we can use it to get married (even though she got enough to get married 3 time over in dividends from her business last year) But then she needed a new car so the money went on that, it’s the first time she’s actually hit me it was all financial controlling before, I hear so many story’s of men only being able to see their kids on a limited basis, Going from stay at home full time parent to this is devastating