Caught my husband looking...

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I caught my husband looking at a girls butt while I was talking to him at a park. He swears he didn't but I swear he did. He's an amazing husband but this makes me feel like I'm not good enough...advice?

Tbh if a woman with a lovely bum 2alked past I'd probably look longer then my dh. That being said I dont mind him looking, it cant really be helped. If he stared a touch too long I'd give a jokey "ahem I'm sitting here"

Tbh if a woman with a lovely bum 2alked past I'd probably look longer then my dh

Same! Of course the purpose is to do it in a way that nobody notices, especially the subject so they won't feel uncomfortable. But there are some very attractive women around!

If you had not been talking, perhaps a quick glance OK. But you were having a conversation where he should be looking at you.

OP, you need to work on your self-esteem. I assume he married you because he fancies you, not because he couldn't get someone with a nicer bottom. It is completely natural to look.

Do you never glance at a good looking bloke? Maybe he shouldn't have done it whilst you were talking, but it would be unreasonable to expect him and you to never look at another human or find someone else attractive. As long as he doesn't act on it.

I was on a beach recently and there was a girl with lovely boobs sunbathing topless with her BF. They were a bit over the top taking sexy photos etc. (And yes there were kids on the beach) anyway I saw my DH have a glance, I initially felt upset but after some thought decided it was not worth it. I was only upset because of my own insecurities about my body after kids. My DH was being fairly normal, I notice sexy men. I do think it comes down to our own insecurities

If it was just looking and not a full on gawp I wouldn't take it personally, humans are drawn to spotting beauty. Years ago I was checking out a womans butt, it was exceptional/impressive and clearly only achieved by millions of squats etc, I then whipped my head round and seen my boyfriend at the time having a good look too. I I scolded him in jest and we skipped off laughing at ourselves.

Looking is fine, leering isn't. It has no reflection on how attractive you are to him.

If you genuinely think several million years of evolution get turned off as soon as a bloke gets a girlfriend or married you are very much mistaken. I really wouldn't worry about it and you seem to have massively overreacted. Genuinely even men that claim to be crystal clear on this front are simply good actors. So long as he doesn't act on it and by that I mean have an affair then I really can't see anything wrong.

So no women here has looked at a man, and thought "he,s fine" or similar? One is allowed to look. If there were other issues in your relationship then perhaps you need worry but on it,s own no.

Sorry, but this is ridiculous.

I am a man, very much in love with a beautiful woman and you know what, I still glance if another attractive lady is nearby. It’s a natural reaction.

I don’t gawp and I don’t stare, and more times than not my Mrs will have a quick glance as well.

In a club on Saturday night and it was full of attractive women with boobs and bums hanging out of their skimpy outfits. You would have to be blind to not have the odd glance.

Eurgh can people stop saying girls for adult women in sexual/flirting contexts? Creepy af.

I think you need to divorce him and marry someone who is blind to prevent yourself from being put in this situation again.

I mean come on get a grip.