There were 3 of us in this marriage (parent)

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Mum said this about me as a child, ie I was too much a part of her and my dad’s marriage.

Other things were said but this has suddenly come back to me. I feel hurt by it? At the time it made me feel confused and in the way. Was this a strange thing to say?

Of course it was. And something you shouldn’t say to your kids unless they are adults who can support themselves but have chosen not to.

I can’t remember my age but I think around 12

That's a really nasty thing to say. I can't blame you for being hurt by it. Is there more that you might want to talk about, unpleasant/abusive ways you were talked to by various people, other unpleasant incidents? It might help to see a counsellor. EMDR therapy can be useful if you relive memories.

I mean, EMDR can be useful for memories that cause you pain etc.

I’m not sure, she often said I nearly caused them to divorce and then later said they never argue since I’d left home. Often called me pathetic, why wasn’t I like my sister etc. It’s just all come back to me and not sure what to make of it