One month out of an abusive relationship, ex already living with another woman.

[Elleinad93x]

I’m a month out of a nasty relationship and still finding things very difficult.

Up until a few weeks ago me and him were still on talking terms, but then he literally disappeared off the face of the earth. I found out he was seeing a woman that he had always insisted was just a friend.

He is now living with this woman and her kid. I am worried for her but can’t say anything as he will obviously tell her I’m crazy.

I don’t think I miss him, or want the relationship back and I know I left him but this still hurts, he’s fine, living a new life and seemingly happy.
I’m alone, miserable and moping around. People keep saying to me get on dating apps etc but I have no interest. Maybe the fact I know he isn’t even giving me a second thought makes it hurt more.

I don’t feel ready to move on yet, and I’m on the verge of tears all the time. I’m so angry at the situation. How does he get away with this and get to move on and be so happy so quickly. I know I need to snap out of it but at the moment I still feel so overwhelmed.

[Delilahfunke]

I’m also a month out of an abusive relationship.... i totally get How You feel.
I cry at the most random moments.
I’ve not started therapy yet as i can’t talk about it without crying .
Even though i ended it and know it was the right thing to do it hurts so much.

[Iloveme30]

He's not happy or moved on trust me .
It's all smoke and mirrors
Narcissistic twat .
Read the book
Men who hate women and the women who love them
That will clarify this for you .
She's his next victim but don't get involved that's only keeping him in your life it will start the triangulation process .
Do the grey rock method with him
Your future self will thank you 😊

[catdogcatdogfish]

I am honestly in the same situation as you. We've been spilt up for 6 weeks and he is already having weekends away with his new girlfriend. He was also abusive, and even though I know I'm better off out of it it doesn't make it hurt any less. I'm watching him spend hundreds of pounds on weekends away yet he is refusing to contribute to his children. He is spending every spare minute with her and hasn't seen his kids in over a week. I too am not even close to contemplating meeting anyone else. This is because we are decent people, we've been through hell and we need time to heal. While on paper they look to have it all, they don't. They don't know how to be alone, and I feel nothing but pity for his new girlfriend. I am far from being over it and a million miles from happy. But there's a better life out there for me and there is for you too