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Just discovered my husband is on porno sites!!! SOOOOO HURT! HELP?

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LOGAN1 · 05/10/2007 16:10

Hi anyone!

I just discovered yesterday that my husband is looking at porno sites on his computer. This has just finished me off. Approx 4 years ago i caught him giving a goodbye kiss to an ex girlfriend at a party lasting a bit longer that a good bye kiss!! He was very drunk and i put it down to that but he gets cross with me when i talk about it. Then 3 years ago we were on my abroad for my brothers 40th birthday with 6 friends - a beautiful weekend only he kept going outside for cigarettes on one occassion for 40mins with a girl we had met and then the next day was similar. Last Christmas i tried to wake him after a house party to switch off the gas fire as was scared to leave on. I had to keep nudging him to wake - then he laid into me and beat me. So that is why i am feeling so bad. I feel that I should ask him to leave but it would break my heart especially for the kids. It would rip us all apart. Am i being unreasonable?at the end of my

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supperwoman · 05/10/2007 16:15

I think porn is the least of your problems. He sounds bad and staying with him for the sake of the kids is wrong. How can you love someone who treats you so badly?

Elizabetth · 05/10/2007 16:29

He beat you up? You are not safe with this man. Please consider the possibility of leaving him.

Women's Aid can offer support -

www.womensaid.org.uk/

lisad123 · 05/10/2007 16:31

sod the porno sites, he sounds nasty and sounds like he treats you very badly. Please leave him if you feel you should.
Its better to have two happy parents living apart than your children seeing you so unhappy.
I think you know whaqt you need to do.
hugs

WillyWooooaaaahnka · 05/10/2007 16:31

Agree with superwoman, especially as you mention that he beat you. Any heartbreak you think your dc's will experience if you ask him to leave will be far outweighed by spending the rest of their childhood being brought up in a happy and non-threatening environment.

I hope someone with direct experience will be along soon with some more relevant advice.

warthog · 05/10/2007 17:17

he beat you? tell him to get out. what a sod.

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