Stbxh payout from house

[Louise000000]

I know legally if married, you are entitled to a 50/50 split, however my husband has contributed only to paying half our mortgage payments over the last 8 years, where as myself and my family have put in our savings into deposits for houses/cars etc over the years.
How is it fair that he would get half of this money? I'm working out around £40k that's come from myself and £0 from him.
He's now demanding £30k as a payout from our house. Yes legally he's entitled to this I guess, but morally if it was the other way around I wouldn't be asking for so much of him and his family had contributed so much to our lives over the years!!

Unless you protected your deposit i think you will loose half of it. But get some good advice

My mums dad put in 60k towards her house and when she divorced my dad she was able to get that taken into consideration so it can be done but you need a good solicitor to argue the case.

Arguably you should get the 30k back plus half of the equity and there is nothing stopping you arguing this legally. It sounds like he's a bit of a waster so he could be trying his luck.

Age 35 and lesson well and truly learned for future!!

If the shoe was on the other foot and he had kids full time
They are HIS kids too aren't they OP???
With suitable housing he can have them more?

and all his family had contributed to our lives financially the whole time
what on earth??? WHY have your family been taking financial responsibility instead of YOU and your DH?
You've had more than one child so what's YOUR excuse?

Especially if I'd had a drug addiction the whole time and been selling drugs from said home
How long EXACTLY have YOU ALLOWED that situation to carry on???
Where was the concern for the children?????

If i were in your shoes - i'd consider giving him what he's legally entitled to a small price to pay for YOUR stupidity....

and poor choices in life....

@monkeymonkey2010 a bit harsh is it not? You dont know the first thing about the details here. I was naive with not securing my money yes, but that's where il stop taking responsibility for being 'stupid'
I won't go into the details of the marriage.
Cheers for your input tho!! 👍