Best friends and feelings

[Toughtips]

Have you ever had such an amazing connection with your best friend that you start to fancy them? To the point you don't stop thinking about them? Im so confused by this. I'd probably identify as pan and I know she does too. Except she's single I'm not and I don't even know how she feels about me really. We are both female.

I'm not even single. But married in a het relationship. It's not always been straightforward but im just so confused. I thought it was just a crush as it faded but then it came back. I love her to bits and if I was single is definitely want to see if anything was there.

I don't want to end my marriage though I'm just so confused by it all.

I've got close to a new friend over the last year. I think I'm Bi, she's straight. At first I thought I was confusing admiration with crushing. She's a great Mum, kind person and lovely friend, I think of her when I wake up and through the day more than I would any other friend. She's filled a void in my life as we've spent quite a lot of time together but it's always for another reason than just spending time and sometimes feel like I'm just convenient. Although I've realised I want more, I know it's not going to happen. Will stay friendly but trying to distance myself a bit. I will say If I was in a relationship and feeling this way about someone else I would finish it. If you're braver than me you could mention it to your friend and go from there.

I'm straight but I've often had 'crushes' on female friends. I've also 'loved' one. When our friendship ended, it ended as a relationship might - I effectively broke up with her.

If you're not interested in ending your relationship, could you not just enjoy the 'crush'?

If not then you're really in the same position as anyone else who falls for someone else when they're in a relationship - regardless of your or the other person's sex. Cut contact with the person you have feelings for and work on your marriage otherwise you're just heading into affair territory.

“If you're not interested in ending your relationship, could you not just enjoy the 'crush'?

If not then you're really in the same position as anyone else who falls for someone else when they're in a relationship - regardless of your or the other person's sex. Cut contact with the person you have feelings for and work on your marriage otherwise you're just heading into affair territory.”

This.

Thank you you are right. I kinda just wanna not think about them every damn day. It's just bard to get out your head. I do need to focus on my marriage though.