I'm in a new relationship (4 months) after being with one man for 30 years so this is quite new to me.
DP has had several long term relationships and a longish period of being single, so more experienced than I am at being a partner and a lover.
I don't doubt that he loves me but after years and years of being taken for granted by my ex, I find it hard to believe sometimes and need reassuring. We've discussed this and I think he understands my insecurities. I try very hard to not be needy and give my head a wobble when I may be being stupid.
But am I right in thinking that he should make me feel like I'm the best thing that's ever happened to him? We are considering spending the rest of our lives together so surely I shouldn't feel like he is settling for just someone who will have him but who doesn't measure up to his previous partner? I have told him that I don't feel special or as good as others and he just says he understands why I would feel that but he loves me. Never tells me I'm the best thing ever. He's very honest but you would fib wouldn't you? Tell me I'm a good lover? Not say he understands my insecurities. Or Am I being unrealistic? We are both early 50s.